Wadatacce
- Babban imani game da mata
- 1. Matsayi daban -daban da aka sanya bisa ka'idar juyin halitta
- 2. Abubuwan zamantakewa da al'adu suna shafar mata sosai
- 3. Amsoshi daban -daban game da jima'i da jima'i daban -daban
- 4. Yadda al'umma ke mu'amala da mata
- 5. Cikakkun bambance -bambancen al'adu da alƙaluma
- 6. Yunƙurin abin mamaki #metoo motsi
- 7. Bambanci ta fuskoki
Ana sa ran mata za su nuna hali daban da na maza tun fil azal. Tunanin maza da mata na duniyoyi daban -daban guda biyu da aka kama tun lokacin da littafin, 'Maza daga Mars, Mata daga Venus', aka fara buga shi tun farkon shekarar 1992.
Marubucin Amurka kuma mai ba da shawara kan dangantaka, John Gray ne ya rubuta littafin. An tsara su daban kuma ana tsammanin za su nuna hali daban.
Babban imani game da mata
Imani kamar mata yakamata ya zama mai rauni a kowane fanni na rayuwarsu yana yin manyan dokoki a cikin al'ummar mu har yau. Duk da cewa akwai mutanen da ke karya sarƙoƙi da bincika jima'i fiye da kakanninsu, al'umma tana yin duk abin da za ta iya don murƙushe muryoyin su.
Yawancin mutane, gami da mata kalilan, suna adawa da ra'ayin cewa yin jima'i mafi kyau yakamata yayi amfani da karfin jima'i na matan su akai -akai.
Al’ummar da ta mamaye maza tana tsoron karfafawa mata da kuma yunƙurin neman duniya inda aka yi mata shiru kuma aka tilasta mata yarda da matsayin da ita kanta al’umma ta ba su.
Dalilan da yasa mata suka kauracewa amfani da karfin jima'i ko kuma suka zaɓi yin shiru game da sha'awar jima'i.
1. Matsayi daban -daban da aka sanya bisa ka'idar juyin halitta
Dangane da ka'idar juyin halitta wanda ya rubuta Okami da Shackelford, mata suna saka jari fiye da maza. A bayyane yake, wannan hanyar ta shafi zaɓin abokin aurensu da kuma niyyar su na yin alaƙa na ɗan lokaci.
Tun zamanin da, an riga an ayyana matsayin al'umma ga kowane mutum.
An sa ran mata za su zauna a gida su kula da iyali. Da farko, ba su ma fallasa ilimin zamani ba. An bambanta su daban -daban daga maza na cikin al'umma.
Sa'ar al'amarin shine, hoton ya canza yau.
Mata sun sami nasarar zubar da duk abubuwan hanawa. Sun dauki cikakken iko akan jikinsu da tunaninsu. Duk da haka, suna samun ɗan gamsuwa ta ci gaba da shawagi cikin jima'i har sai sun haifi yara.
2. Abubuwan zamantakewa da al'adu suna shafar mata sosai
Sha'awar jima'i a cikin mata yana da matukar mahimmanci ga muhalli da mahallin - Edward O. Laumann
Edward O. Laumann, Ph.D., farfesa ne na ilimin halayyar dan adam a Jami'ar Chicago kuma jagoran marubucin babban binciken ayyukan jima'i, The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States.
A cewar Farfesan, galibin manyan maza 'yan ƙasa da shekaru 60 suna tunanin yin jima'i aƙalla sau ɗaya a rana. A gefe guda kuma, kashi ɗaya cikin huɗu na matan da ke faɗa ƙarƙashin ƙungiya iri ɗaya sun yarda cewa suna tunanin yin jima'i akai-akai. Fantasizing game da jima'i yana raguwa tare da shekaru amma maza har yanzu suna tunanin kusan sau biyu sau da yawa.
3. Amsoshi daban -daban game da jima'i da jima'i daban -daban
Wani binciken da aka buga a cikin Journals of Gerontology ya nuna yadda maza da mata masu shekaru daban -daban ke amsa jima'i daban. Binciken ya tattara bayanai daga wasu safiyo guda biyu, Binciken Lafiya da Rayuwar Jama'a da Tsarin Rayuwa na Ƙasa, Kiwon Lafiya, da Tsufa.
A cikin shekarun shekaru 44-59, an gano kashi 88 na maza sun fi yin jima'i sabanin matan da ke faɗuwa ƙarƙashin sashi ɗaya. Matan, sun kasance kusa da diddigin maza, ba tare da wani gibi mai faɗi sosai ba. An kiyasta cewa kusan kashi 72 na mata suna yin jima'i a cikin rukunin shekarun.
Ci gaba da bincike ya tabbatar da cewa maza sun nuna sha'awar yin jima'i sau 7 a wata tare da matan da ke nuna ƙarancin ƙarancin ƙarfi a 6.5.
Binciken ya kuma gano cewa maza suna ci gaba da nuna sha'awar jima'i mafi girma koda sun wuce ƙofar tsakiyar shekaru.
Alƙaluman da ke sama sun tabbatar da cewa maza sun fi mata motsawa. Don haka, yin magana game da jima'i tare da abokai ba ƙaramin abu bane a gare su sabanin takwarorinsu maza.
4. Yadda al'umma ke mu'amala da mata
Al'umma sun bi da mata daban tun shekaru. Akwai ƙasashe kamar Amurka inda mata ke more cikakkiyar 'yanci na bincika jima'i. Anan, al'ummomin yankin suna da mafi kyawun abin yi fiye da sanya hancin su cikin dakunan wasu mutane.
Amma, akwai wasu ƙasashe kalilan waɗanda ba a yarda mata su ma fallasa ɗan ƙaramin fatar jikinsu a bainar jama'a ba. Al’adu da addini sigogi ne guda biyu waɗanda a zahiri ke tantance yadda yakamata mutum yayi a bainar jama’a.
5. Cikakkun bambance -bambancen al'adu da alƙaluma
Fim ɗin wasan kwaikwayo na soyayya na Amurka, 'Jima'i da City 2', ya baiyana a sarari bambance -bambancen al'adu tsakanin mata masu yin fim da matan Abu Dhabi.
Bugu da ƙari, fim ɗin ya nuna yadda wata ƙasa kamar Abu Dhabi wacce ke ci gaba ta hanyoyi da yawa ta kasance mai ra'ayin mazan jiya inda ake damuwa da jima'i. Wannan ba labari bane kawai game da al'ummomin Larabawa. Hatta mata daga ƙasashen Kudu maso Gabashin Asiya kamar Indiya suna magance irin waɗannan batutuwan da suka shafi jima'i kowace rana.
6. Yunƙurin abin mamaki #metoo motsi
Misali, rashin kunya ya zama kayan aiki mai amfani don shawo kan raunin jima'i anan. Al'umma a kullum tana ɗora laifin mace ko da kuwa an ci zarafin mata a bainar jama'a. Ba tare da la'akari da ci gaban '#meToo' da ke gudana a duniya ba, kaɗan ne waɗanda abin ya shafa ba sa son ɗaga muryoyinsu a kan masu zunubi.
Wannan saboda waɗanda aka yi wa fyaɗe suna cikin damuwa ta hanyar tambayoyi masu tayar da hankali da lauyoyin suka gabatar musu a gaban kotu.
Hatta matan ƙasashe masu ci gaba kamar Amurka suna fuskantar wulakanci. Wani bincike da Kungiyar Matan Jami'a ta Amurka ta gudanar, ya nuna cewa cin mutunci yana daga cikin manyan nau'o'in cin zarafin jima'i da ɗalibai a makarantun tsakiya da na sakandare ke fuskanta.
Wani misali na ɓarna-ɓarna ya buge kafofin watsa labarai lokacin da Huffington Post ta buga waɗancan imel ɗin waɗanda aka yi musayar su tsakanin Shugaban Hukumar Miss America Organization Sam Haskell da membobin kwamitin daban-daban. Wadanda suka yi nasara a gasar sun kasance marasa kunya da kunya a cikin imel.
7. Bambanci ta fuskoki
Ba gaskiya bane gaba ɗaya cewa duk mata sun gwammace ɓoye sha'awar su kuma su guji bincika jima'i kamar maza.
Wasu mata suna da kyakkyawar magana game da wannan batun. A haƙiƙa, sauyin lokaci ya sanya mata rashin tsoro da ƙarfin hali.
Da yawa daga cikin matan sannu a hankali suna ficewa daga tsattsauran ra'ayi kuma suna samun gamsuwa fiye da alaƙar su.
Duk da haka, akwai matan da ke ɗaukar jima'i a matsayin abin sirri. Sun fi son kiyaye rayuwar jima'i a bayan ƙofofin rufe. Sun fi aminci fiye da yawancin maza idan ana batun alaƙa kuma suna jin daɗin yin jima'i da abokin aure ɗaya.
A gare su, jima'i ya fi game da kayan aiki don bayyana ainihin ji ga abokin tarayya fiye da ƙosar da yunwar jikinta. Ba kamar maza ba, mata suna jin daɗin hasashe, tunawa, da tunanin jima'i mai zafi. Lokacin da take tunanin kasancewa tare da abokin aikinta, sha'awar jima'i tana kan ganiya.
Ga mata, jima’i ya fi sha’awar jin daɗin haɗin kai fiye da kashe wuta ta ciki.
A ƙarshe, zubar da waɗancan abubuwan hanawa kuma ku bayyana sha'awar jima'i da yardar kaina
Babu shakka, al'umma ce, tsohuwar al'adar, da waɗanda ake kira 'yan sanda masu ɗabi'a ne ke da alhakin ƙuntata mata na kowane zamani.
Gaba ɗaya ya rage ga mata ko su yi magana a bainar jama'a game da rayuwar jima'i.
Amma, kasancewa masu nuna halin ko -in -kula ga buƙatunku a bayan ƙofofin rufe ba daidai ba ne. Jima'i yana da mahimmanci idan kuna son yin nasarar dangantakar ku. Amma, kuna buƙatar zama mafi buɗe ido ga abokin tarayya kuma ku bayyana buƙatunku da sha'awarku a sarari.
Yana da mahimmanci mata su ba da lokaci don saduwa da abokan hulɗa yayin da suke cikin kwanciyar hankali suna bayyana bukatunsu na jima'i, tare da abokan hulɗarsu don samun kyakkyawar alaƙa mai daɗi.