Wadatacce
- Yadda ake dawo da soyayya a cikin auren ku
- 1. Barci tare, a zahiri
- 2.Ka yi kokari don saduwa da yawa
- 3. Yi wa juna lokaci
- 4. Shirya hutu kowane monthsan watanni
- 5. Tabbatar cewa rayuwar jima'i tana aiki
Yana da mahimmanci don yi la'akari da hanyoyin samun soyayya don sake tayar da aurenku yanzu da sannan, in ba haka ba, rashin hankali da rashin gajiya na iya kutsawa cikin sararin ku na sirri tsakanin zanen gado. Amma ihakora lokacin da ya dace don sake gina soyayya a cikin aure ba sauki.
Bayan wasu shekaru na aure, lokacin da monotony da ayyukan yau da kullun ke tashi, soyayya da so da alama narke cikin komai. Wannan yana haifar da aure mara daɗi da rayuwa mara daɗi.
Dangane da binciken da Cibiyar Binciken Ra'ayoyin Ƙasa ta gudanar, kashi 60% na mutane ne kawai ke farin ciki a cikin aurensu. Duk da haka wani binciken ya nuna cewa kusan kashi 15% na maza da kusan kashi 27% na mata ba su taɓa yin jima'i ba a cikin shekarar da ta gabata.
Don haka sai ku ga wasu ma'aurata sun kasance suna zaman aure wanda gaba ɗaya babu son zuciya da soyayya.
Duk da abin da yawancin masu ba da shawara kan aure ke cewa soyayya ba ta ɓacewa tsakanin ma'aurata, "rashin haɗin kai na jiki yana raba ma'aurata," in ji Saari Cooper, ƙwararren masanin ilimin jima'i. Daga ƙarshe, rashin soyayya da jima'i a cikin aure na iya haifar da rashin imani ko saki.
Soyayya da sha’awa na iya zama wani lokacin kawai a ɓoye bayan jin sakaci, fushi, kaɗaici, gajiya, da bacin rai. Don haka, don sanya aurenku ya kasance mai farin ciki da nasara, yana da mahimmanci ku sake gano waɗancan abubuwan soyayya da sake gina soyayya a cikin aure.
Wadannan suna daga cikin masu sauƙi nasihu don sake farfado da soyayya cikin aure.
Yadda ake dawo da soyayya a cikin auren ku
Mai kyau alakar jima'i shine an gina shi a kan kusancin zuciya da kusanci tsakanin abokan tarayya. Rashin soyayya a cikin aure da kusancin jiki tsakanin abokan zama yana haifar da yanke zumunci tsakanin ku.
Amma duk ba a rasa ba. Dr. Lisa Firestone ta rubuta, "Mahimmancin yana buƙatar juyawa daga yadda ake" gyara "ɗayan kuma zuwa babban fa'idar yadda za a gyara gyaran dangantaka.”
Maimakon yin kuka game da rasa soyayya a cikin dangantaka, nemo hanyoyin sake gina soyayya a cikin aure. Wadannan sune hanyoyi guda biyar daban -daban don sake farfado da soyayyar da dawo da fara'a da ta ɓace cikin dangantakar ku.
1. Barci tare, a zahiri
Yakamata kowane ma'aurata su kwanta lokaci guda. Barci a lokaci guda yana ba da dama don runguma, sumbata, da kasance tare da juna. Ko da ma’auratan ba sa magana da juna, kasancewa kusa da juna sau da yawa yana ƙarfafa haɗin kai tsakaninsu.
Wani bincike da Jami'ar Pittsburgh ta gudanar ya yi iƙirarin cewa yin bacci tare da abokin tarayya yana inganta jin daɗin aminci da tsaro. Bugu da ƙari, yana saukar da hormones na damuwa kuma yana haɓaka hormones na ƙauna, tare da kusantar da ma'aurata kusa da juna.
A lokaci guda, kwanciya tare yana ba da lokaci mai yawa don ma'aurata su haɗu kafin su yi barci a hannun juna. Hakanan, zuwa gado a lokaci guda yana haifar da jin daɗi, gamsuwa, ƙauna, farin ciki, da godiya.
2.Ka yi kokari don saduwa da yawa
Hanya mafi kyau don sake farfado da soyayya ita ce dogara da tsoffin kwanakin soyayya da bin juna. Amma, yawancin ma'aurata sun daina soyayya da junansu kuma sun fara ɗaukar juna da wasa. Irin wannan hali na iya tabbatar da zama ƙusa na ƙarshe a cikin akwatin gawa, wanda a ƙarshe ke haifar da rabuwa da aure ko saki.
Sau da yawa ana lura da fari na soyayya lokacin da son zuciya ya canza zuwa sadaukarwa na dogon lokaci.
Amma idan kuna son koyan yadda ake sake sabunta soyayya, dole ne ku tuna kyawawan lokutan kwanakinku na farko kuma ku shirya ranar mamaki. Haɗuwa da juna sau da yawa yana ba ku damar yabawa juna kuma ku ci gaba da haskaka dangantakar ku.
Hakanan, kwanakin da yawa zasu karya monotony kuma zai taimaka muku sake gina soyayya a cikin aure.
3. Yi wa juna lokaci
Wannan shine ɗayan mafi kyawun abubuwan da zaku iya ba abokin tarayya kuma watau, lokacin ku mai daraja.
Yana da mahimmanci sosai don ba da lokaci ga juna. Abokin aikinku na iya sha'awar zuwa kide kide tare da ku alhali kun gaji sosai bayan aiki da ayyukan gida.
Irin waɗannan abubuwa suna yawan faruwa tsakanin ma'aurata. Don haka, ya zama dole a ƙirƙiri kalandar ma'aurata don ku sami lokaci don ɗaukar matar ku zuwa kwanan wata, wasan kwaikwayo ko fim.
Idan kun kai wannan matakin inda ba ku sake samun soyayya a cikin dangantaka ba, to wataƙila yana iya farkar da ku don fara aiki don sake gina ɓacewar soyayya a cikin aure.
4. Shirya hutu kowane monthsan watanni
Idan kuna son ci gaba da soyayya a cikin aure, kuna buƙatar tsara shirye -shiryen soyayya don sake tayar da aurenku lokaci -lokaci.
Yana da lafiya ƙwarai ga ma'aurata su ɗan jima tare da juna a wuri mai nisa, nesa da gida. Wannan yana taimaka musu su yaba da haɗin kai mafi kyau. Don haka, dole ne ku shirya hutu kowane 'yan watanni don sake farfado da soyayya a cikin auren ku.
Ana shirin sake gina soyayya a cikin aure? Fara ta shirin fitar da hutu na soyayya tare da abokin tarayya a yau!
5. Tabbatar cewa rayuwar jima'i tana aiki
Ma'aurata masu lafiya suna yin jima'i sau da yawa. Lokacin rayuwar jima'i tana aiki, akwai ɗan ƙaramin ɗaki don ƙiyayya da fushi. Sabili da haka, siyan wasu kayan kwalliyar kwalliya da fara jima'i a kullun. Wannan zai sa abokin tarayyarku ya ji daɗi.
Dole ne ku sake yin rayuwar jima'i don yin aurenku ya yi aiki.
Kamar yadda aka ambata a baya a cikin labarin, yana da mahimmanci a sake gina soyayya a cikin aure domin yi rayuwa mai dadi da gamsarwa.
Waɗannan nasihu masu sauƙi tabbas za su taimaka muku ku ci gaba da haskaka rayuwar auren ku don ku sami gamsuwa da farin ciki game da rayuwar auren ku.