Ta yaya Tambaya mai ban sha'awa da sauraro mai zurfi zasu kai ga Soyayya?

Wadatacce

• Gwajin: Tattaunawa yana tafiya
• Psychology na tambaya
• Fara musu kusa da tambayoyi

Akwai ƙari da yawa a kusa da buga Tambayar a cikin mafi sihiri. Sanya suturar da ta dace, zaɓar madaidaicin wuri, har ma da ɗaukar ƙwararren mai ɗaukar hoto don ɗaukar hotunan gaskiya na farin ciki (da fatan!).

Tabbas, mai ɗaukar hoto dole ne ya ci gaba da ɓoyewa har zuwa lokacin da ya dace.

"Mene ne waƙar soyayya da ke sa ku zama tare?"

Yayin labarin babban tambaya 'Za ku aure ni?' yana jagorantar tabloids, akwai ingantaccen bincike mai zurfi tambayoyi don tambayar abokin tarayya a cikin dangantaka, wanda ya mamaye duniyar soyayya ta guguwa wasu shekaru da suka gabata.

Magana game da binciken masana ilimin halin dan Adam Arthur Aron da ƙungiya, wanda marubucin jaridar New York Times Mandy Len Catron ya yi fice a cikin 2015, shine madaidaicin dabara don soyayya.

Ya samo asali ne daga bincike don fahimtar ƙauna azaman ayyuka da neman madaidaicin saitin dakin gwaje -gwaje don ta bunƙasa.

Wannan binciken ya kafa wani motsa jiki mai amfani wanda ke ƙara damar mutum na soyayya da abokin tarayya ta hanyar amsa tambayoyin alaƙar da za ta inganta rayuwar soyayyar ku.

Wannan labarin zai duba muhimman rawar da fasahar tambaya mai ban sha'awa da sauraro mai zurfi za su iya takawa cikin soyayya ta soyayya. Bugu da ƙari, ta yaya son sani da tambayoyi suna haifar da dangantaka.

"Menene abin wasan yara na musamman da kuke ƙauna tun daga lokacin?"

Gwajin: Tattaunawa yana tafiya

Gwajin da masana ilimin halayyar dan adam da aka ambata a sama ya yi ƙoƙarin hanyoyi da yawa don ƙona soyayyar soyayya tsakanin baƙi.

Ya bayyana cewa mintuna 45 na raba amsoshi ga jerin tambayoyi, wanda sannu a hankali ya zama mafi kusanci a cikin yanayi, yana haifar da jin daɗin kimanta ƙimar abokin tarayya da jin kusanci da su.

Ƙarshe daga gwaji yana ba da haske game da hanyar sadarwa na masu canji waɗanda ke taka rawa mai ƙarfi a cikin haɗin soyayya.

Raba ƙwarewa, bayyana labaru da ra'ayoyi na sirri, da kuma samun wani ya amsa tambayoyin na gaskiya, kaɗan ne daga cikin abubuwan ginin da aka gano.

"Menene mafi ƙarfin hali da kuka yi yayin fuskantar adawa/ rashin jituwa?"

Psychology na tambaya

Tambayoyi, a zahiri, sihiri ne. Wannan ba gaskiya ba ne don bincika, rashin girmamawa ko maganganun batanci da aka ɓoye kamar tambayoyi.Irin tambayoyin da aka rubuta a cikin gwajin, waɗanda ke haifar da kusanci, suna da ban sha'awa a yanayi. Bari mu kira su tambayoyi masu ban sha'awa daga yanzu.

Manyan halaye guda biyu na tambayoyin da aka yi da su son sani a cikin soyayya dangantaka suna buɗe ido don sauraro da jin yarda.

Buɗe buɗe ido don sauraro yana haɓakawa ta hanyar ɗabi'a mai ɗorewa na tambayoyin. Amsoshin suna haifar da gada ta rabawa tsakanin abokan hulɗa. A wannan lokacin, tambaya da amsar ta zama madubin sahihanci.

Jin daɗin karɓar karɓaɓɓe yana ƙarfafawa ta hanyar ido wanda abokin tarayya ke kiyayewa, ɗan jingina yayin da ake raba amsoshi, da kuma halin rashin hukunci. Wannan yana haifar da sarari wanda zai iya riƙe raunin juna.

Rashin raunin zai iya haifar da sarari don ƙarin tattaunawa ta gaskiya da yanke shawara mai ƙarfin zuciya (Duba Ilimin Ilimin Haɗin kai: Haɗa Zuciya, Bincike, da Kwarewar Kullum).

Mataki na ƙarshe a cikin aikin motsa jiki shine kallon idanun abokin tarayya na mintuna biyu zuwa huɗu. An bayyana wannan matakin a matsayin mai tausayawa, mai ƙarfi, abin tsoro, mai rauni kuma mai tasiri sosai a cikin ƙirƙirar haɗin gwiwa.

Fara musu kusa da tambayoyi

Kuna iya tambaya- To menene? Tun da ba ku cikin gwajin kuma ba ku sami abokan aikinku na dogon lokaci a cikin dakin bincike ba, ta yaya sanin game da tambayoyi masu ban sha'awa da sauraro mai zurfi ke taimakawa shari'ar soyayya? Kuma me yasa mutane masu ban sha'awa ke da kyakkyawar alaƙa?

Akwai wasu haske daga wannan gwajin da za a iya amfani da su kai tsaye a cikin rayuwa don samar da zurfin zurfafa a gabaɗaya kuma na soyayya na musamman. Waɗannan fa'idodin kuma suna kafa manyan dalilan yin tambayoyi kuma su kasance masu sha'awar dangantaka.

Anan akwai wasu hanyoyi don yiwa abokiyar zama laya da tambayoyi:

1. A shafukan sada zumunta, kamar Tinder, haɓaka wasanku tare da ƙarin tambayoyi masu ban sha'awa maimakon 'WYD?'
2. Abokan hulɗa yakamata suyi ɗabi'a ba kawai cim ma ranar ɗaya ba amma kuma suyi tambayoyi masu ban sha'awa da hasashe. Amsoshin su zai taimaka muku samun sabbin fuskoki na halayen su kuma ku sabunta dangantakar ku.
3. Nemo jerin tambayoyin da aka yi amfani da su a cikin gwajin, musamman idan kuna fuskantar mawuyacin hali a cikin dangantakar ku, kuma ku sake gano kusancin da ke shuɗewa.
4. Ku ciyar da ranar tunawa da ku ko kuma lokaci-lokaci tare da sanin juna ta hanyar tunawa da labarai daban-daban maimakon ranakun tsada da manyan hanyoyin otal.

"Lokacin da muka cika shekaru 90 kuma mun gama lissafin kyaututtukan abin duniya, wanne ingancin nawa za ku fi ɗauka?"

A ƙarshe, tambayoyi masu ban sha'awa suna haifar da yanayin aminci, wasa, da farin ciki. Suna share fagen raba tsofaffin labaran da sabbi su zama tsari.