Wadatacce
- 1. Saurara da kyau kuma ku amsa daidai
- 2. Nisantar zargi na mutum
- 3. Ku fahimci juna
- 4. Yi amfani da sautin da ya dace
- 5. Neman bayani
- 6. Yi amfani da bayanin mutum na farko
- 7. Kula da nutsuwa da daidaita motsin zuciyar ku
- 8. Yabawa abokin zama
- 9. Yarda da tasirin matarka
Bambanci tsakanin aure mai farin ciki da mara daɗi yana cikin iya sadarwa.
Kwarewar sadarwa mai lafiya ga ma'aurata yana daya daga cikin muhimman abubuwan da ke kawo nasarar aure.
A gefe guda, rashin sadarwa tsakanin ma'aurata na iya haifar da jiyya ta shiru, haushi, fushi, da bacin rai.
Da zarar waɗannan sun mamaye abokin tarayya, yana haifar da mummunan aiki ga halaye marasa kyau da rashin iya kula da mahimman abubuwan sadarwa don warware rikici.
Masu ba da shawara na aure sun shawarci abokan haɗin gwiwa da su fito fili su faɗi ra’ayoyinsu marasa kyau da kyau don kiyaye zaman lafiya a cikin aure.
Kwarewar sadarwa mai kyau da tasiri ga ma'aurata sun haɗa da sauraro, ba da amsa, bayani, fahimta cikin sautin kwanciyar hankali a wuri da yanayin da ya dace.
Kada ku nemi hanyar magance matsala da motsin rai, kamar yadda hankalin ku mara tsayayye zai iya tura ku yin ihu da ihu. Amma haɓaka dabarun sadarwar ku na aure ko ƙwarewar sadarwar ma'aurata ya fi sauƙi fiye da aikatawa.
Har ila yau duba:
Daga fafatawa da juna, kasancewa mai mahimmanci, jifa, da rashin yafiya, don samun ingantacciyar sadarwa ga ma'aurata, dole ne ku guji tarnaƙi da yawa.
Don haka don taimaka muku samun dabarun sadarwa na asali don ma'aurata ko koyan sabbin dabarun sadarwa ga ma'aurata, ga wasu nasihohi don ma'aurata su haɓaka dabarun sadarwar da ta dace:
1. Saurara da kyau kuma ku amsa daidai
Sadarwar da ta dace tana buƙatar jimlar duka ɓangarorin biyu.
Ofaya daga cikin mahimman shawarwarin sadarwa ga ma'aurata shine su ƙyale abokin aikin ku yayi magana kamar ku saurara sosai ga duk gunaguni, godiya, da damuwa.
Wataƙila ba ku yarda da duk batutuwan ba, amma ku tausaya da sautin kuka ko sanarwa kamar "Ina jin takaicin ku a cikin aikina, amma kun gane hakan ......."
Ba tsarin kariya ba ne; yana ba da tabbaci ga abokin tarayya cewa kuna la’akari da damuwar su, amma kuma kuna da ra’ayin ku ko ra’ayin ku.
Kuna jawo hankalin su don tattaunawa ta buɗe don zana cikakkiyar mafita.
2. Nisantar zargi na mutum
Guji kowane irin sukar mutum ta hanyar cin mutunci, yaren jikin da bai dace ba, ihu, da ihu.
Kuna iya samun ma'ana, amma yadda kuke sadarwa yana da tasiri kan yadda abokin aikin ku ke ɗaukar bayanin.
PZargin da ake yi wa mutum yana sa abokin aikin ku ya ɗauki dabarun kare kai wanda ke hana tsarin sadarwar ku.
Sau da yawa, zargi na mutum yana aiki azaman mai haifar da muhawara mai zafi tsakanin abokan hulɗa.
Kuna buƙatar jagorantar yaren jikin ku, fuskokin fuska, da sautin muryar ku yadda yakamata don gujewa ba wa abokin tarayya shawarwari mara kyau.
Wannan yana ɗaya daga cikin mahimman hanyoyin sadarwa don ma'aurata su haɓaka idan suna son tattaunawa ta lumana kowane lokaci.
3. Ku fahimci juna
Nemo abokin tarayya don sauraron ku ba tare da yanke muku hukunci ba. Masana ilimin halayyar ɗan adam sun ba da shawarar godiya da farko a cikin ƙoƙarin fitar da aya zuwa gida.
Abokin tarayya zai ji yana da ƙima duk da wasu raunin nasa. A zahiri, mahimmancin dangantakar suna aiki mafi kyau lokacin da kuka sanya kanku cikin takalmin abokin tarayya yayin da kuke neman hankalin su don aiwatar da sadarwa mai amfani.
4. Yi amfani da sautin da ya dace
Shin dukkan ku kuna da kwanciyar hankali yayin shiga tattaunawa? Rigima game da lamari mai mahimmanci na iya zama bala'i kawai saboda kun kasa yin amfani da sautin da ya dace.
Ma'aurata da ke magana da balaga suna amfani da sautin da ya dace da aka bayyana tare da kwanciyar hankali don fuskantar lamarin.
Kada ku taɓa samun hankalin matarka cikin fushi; za ku daure ku ɗaga muryar ku wanda ke haifar da cikakken rufe tashar sadarwa.
Sautin tasiri yana ba ku kyautar tawali'u da ladabi, yana jagorantar zaɓin kalmominku kuma yana ƙara kwantar da hankalin abokin aikinku don shiga cikin tawali'u cikin tawali'u.
5. Neman bayani
Wata fasahar sadarwa ga ma'aurata su yi aiki ita ce yin tambayoyi na gano gaskiya ko neman bayani daga abokin aikinsu. Wannan fasaha ta sa ma'aurata su fahimci juna da kyau maimakon yin zato.
Kuna da alhakin sarrafa tattaunawar. Amfani da tambayoyin da ba a gama ba maimakon rufaffiyar tambayoyin yana ba wa abokin tarayya ku damar raba basira da tunani kan halin da ake ciki.
An fi amfani da tambayoyin da aka rufe yayin tambayoyin 'yan sanda ba don buɗe sadarwa mai amfani ba.
6. Yi amfani da bayanin mutum na farko
Yayin da kuke neman amsoshi, kasance cikin tambayar, Misali, lokacin da kuke son yin taɗi taɗi game da abokin tarayya ku guji ayyukansu:
"Ina jin kun kawar da nauyin da ke wuyan ku saboda ba na ba ku isasshen kulawa."
Yanzu, wannan na iya zama ba halin da ake ciki ba, amma gaskiyar cewa kun yarda da kasancewa cikin matsalar koda ba ku ba, yana ba wa maigidan ku ƙalubalen mallaka da karɓar yanayin a matsayin alhakin haɗin gwiwa.
7. Kula da nutsuwa da daidaita motsin zuciyar ku
Dabarar sadarwar da ta dace ga ma'aurata ita ce zauna lafiya duk lokacin da kuke magana da abokin tarayya ko da kun gane cewa rigimar tana ƙara yin zafi a yayin tattaunawar.
Kwanciyar hankali yana ba ku kamun kai don samun zurfin fahimtar halin da ake ciki kuma, a lokaci guda, yana taimaka wa abokin aikinku don fitar da raunin da ya ji rauni kuma ya ci gaba zuwa mafita.
Mafi kyawun lokacin don sadarwa shine lokacin da kuka yi sanyi, kuma kuna sarrafa motsin zuciyar ku.
8. Yabawa abokin zama
Sadarwa, wadda ke cike da zargi da mugun tunani, ba za ta taɓa yin amfani ba. Dole abokin aikinku ya kasance yana da halaye masu kyau. In ba haka ba, zaku iya zaɓar kashe aure maimakon sadarwa, yaba waɗannan halayen.
Kowa yana buƙatar godiya da yabo mai kyau don tausasa zuciya zuwa ga ikhlasi da buɗe ido- siginar sadarwa mai nasara.
9. Yarda da tasirin matarka
Mummunan aikin sadarwa shine lokacin da abokin tarayya ya mamaye ko yana da iko akan ɗayan.
Yi aiki tare don rage alaƙar ku daga irin waɗannan al'adun kuma kada ku bari wannan ya kawo cikas ga tsarin sadarwar ku ta lumana.
Yayin da kuke neman samun ƙwarewar sadarwa mai kyau tare da matarka, la'akari da yanayin, kwanciyar hankali, da son buɗe magana.
Bugu da kari, abokin aikinku dole ne ya kasance yana da masaniyar dalilin taron. Guji ambaton duk abubuwan da suka gabata.
Kwarewar sadarwa ga ma'aurata tabbas ɗaya ne daga cikin mahimman surori na rayuwa wanda kowane abokin tarayya ke buƙatar haddace da zarar sun ce 'Na yi' juna.