Matsalolin Sadarwar Jama'a a Aure

Wadatacce

• Sauraren amsawa
• Sauƙin shagala
• Maganin shiru
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• Rashin fahimta

Duk wanda ya yi aure zai gaya muku: wani lokacin sadarwa tsakanin ma'aurata yana bayyana kamar laka. Yawancin lokaci, waɗannan abubuwan na ɗan gajeren lokaci ne, musamman idan ma'aurata sun ƙuduri aniyar shawo kan ƙananan abubuwa. Amma matsalolin sadarwa na iya tasowa a kowane lokaci a cikin kowane aure kuma yana haifar da kowane adadin abubuwan da ba a so! Wadannan sune kadan daga cikin matsalolin sadarwa na yau da kullun a cikin aure waɗanda ma'aurata ke fuskanta tsawon lokaci.

Sauraren amsawa

Yana da sauƙi ku gaya wa abokin aikin ku, "Na ji ku." Amma da gaske kuna sauraro? Oneaya daga cikin abubuwan da suka fi dacewa da sadarwa don kowa, amma musamman ga waɗanda ke cikin aure, shine rashin kulawa lokacin sauraro. Mutane da yawa sun faɗa cikin tarkon sauraron abin da wani zai faɗi da niyyar sanin yadda za su amsa maimakon sauraron gaskiya da ƙoƙarin fahimtar abin da wani ke faɗi. A cikin aure, wannan na iya zama da wahala musamman kuma yana haifar da matsaloli na musamman a sakamakon. Kowane abokin tarayya yana da alhakin kimanta ɗayan mutumin - kasancewa mai kare kai, yana son samun “kalma ta ƙarshe,” kuma saurara kawai da niyyar sanin abin da za a faɗi a madadin tabbatattun hanyoyi ne na rage darajar abokin aikin ku. Maimakon sauraron don sanin abin da za ku faɗa, saurara don fahimta kuma ku ji ainihin abin da ƙaunataccenku yake ƙoƙarin faɗa muku.

Sauƙin shagala

Wani ramin gama gari shine shagala. Dangane da wayoyin salula, kwamfyutocin tafi -da -gidanka, talabijin na USB, allunan, da sauran na'urori, akwai babban rudani a cikin sadarwa wanda waɗannan abubuwan, abin mamaki, ke haifar da su. Lokacin magana da wani mutum, kowannen mu yana son samun kulawa mara kyau. Tattaunawa da wanda aka shagala ta kowace hanya na iya zama abin takaici kuma yana haifar da rashin sadarwa. Aure kan sha fama da wannan matsalar sau da yawa. Mutane biyu da suka saba da kasancewar juna, galibi sukan zama marasa lalaci cikin sadarwa; maimakon ba wa dayan hankali, abubuwan da ke ɗauke da hankali kamar wayar salula ana samun su cikin sauƙi kuma suna haifar da babbar matsala a kwararar sadarwa. Kuma wannan yana daya daga cikin matsalolin sadarwa na yau da kullun a cikin aure wanda ya zama ruwan dare tsakanin ma’auratan da ke ƙarƙashin shekaru daban -daban da sauran nau'ikan. Yi ƙoƙarin guje wa wannan matsalar ta hanyar ajiye wayar, kashe sauti a talabijin, ko kuma nisanta daga abubuwa masu jan hankali yayin da abokin aikin ku yake tattaunawa da ku.

Maganin shiru

“Maganin shiru” shiru ne, amma yana da mutuƙar illa ga dangantaka mai lafiya. Rashin sadarwa na iya zama matsala lokacin da ɗaya ko duka mutanen da ke cikin aure suka zaɓi yin watsi da matsalar (da ɗayan) maimakon magance batun da ke hannun. Yin hakan akai -akai na iya haifar da lalacewar dangantaka ta dindindin kuma yana hana ma'aurata shiga cikin tsarin sadarwa mai lafiya.

Yanzu ku tuna: wasu mutane suna buƙatar lokaci don tattara tunaninsu kafin tattauna wata matsala. Wasu sun zaɓi su yi tafiya na ɗan lokaci don fushin fushinsu kuma su koma cikin tattaunawar cikin nutsuwa. Kuna iya zama wanda ba ya son yin jayayya, amma zai fi son ɗaukar lokaci don daidaita tunanin ku kuma ku dawo cikin tattaunawar daga ra'ayi mai ma'ana. Akwai bambanci mai yawa tsakanin waɗannan halayen da rashin kulawa matsalar. Yi hankali da tunani cikin yadda kuka zaɓi nisanta daga tattaunawar; ku kasance tare da matarka kuma ku faɗi wani abu wanda ke nuna buƙatarku na ɗan lokaci don lokaci ko sarari.

Rashin fahimta

A ƙarshe, kuma wataƙila mafi haɗari ga yanayin sadarwar aure, shine rashin sarari ko ƙoƙarin fahimtar tunanin mutum da yadda yake ji. Wannan sanyin zai iya zuwa daga haɗuwa da wasu dalilai ko kuma, a zahiri, zai iya zama amsa daga samun irin wannan magani daga wani mutum. Wannan halin na iya haifar da bala'i ga aure. Ba tare da son fahimtar ɗayan ba, sadarwa ba ta wanzu. Kuma ba tare da sadarwa ba, haɗin gwiwar aure ba zai bunƙasa ba.

Rashin jituwa, rashin jin daɗi, rashin fahimta da sanin yakamata, abubuwan jan hankali - duk waɗannan na iya yin ɓarna akan kyakkyawar alaƙa. Amma, bi da bi, waɗannan matsalolin za a iya shawo kan su da niyya. Aure tsakanin mutane biyu alkawari ne na soyayya, mutuntawa, da son juna. Sadarwar sadarwa na iya haifar da gwagwarmayar wucin gadi, amma waɗanda ke yin alwashin su da niyyar shawo kan gwagwarmayar su, suna gina tushe mai ƙarfi don haɓaka sadaukar da kai ga juna. Yin kawar da matsalolin sadarwa na yau da kullun a cikin aure yana da mahimmanci don lura da kiyaye kyakkyawar alaƙa tsakanin abokan.