Wadatacce
- 1. Kuna son fadadawa fiye da kanku
- 2. Kyakkyawan ido
- 3. Synchronicity na waje da na ciki
- 4. Wari
- 5. Hormones
- 6. Me yasa wasu mutane suke soyayya cikin sauki?
- 7. Fara aiki akan kanku don amincewa da bin soyayya
Tambayar da ke ba da kulawa sosai kuma har yanzu ba a amsa ta ba (ga yawancin sassan) shine dalilin da yasa mutane ke soyayya.
Yanzu, wannan tambayar mai rikitarwa tana da amsoshi daban -daban; za ku iya amsa ta a kimiyyance, kuna iya amsa ta yanayin ɗan adam, ko kuna iya bayyana ta da sauƙi cewa Allah ya halicci namiji da mace biyu -biyu don haka suka kasance tare.
Lokacin da muke ƙuruciya, abu na ƙarshe da ke zuwa zuciyarmu shine dabarar Allah. Mu kan dauki soyayya a matsayin ji, kamar motsin rai da ke sa mu son yin hauka. Ƙananan abubuwa kamar riƙe hannu, dawo da goge, cin cakulan a ranar soyayya, da sassaƙa sunaye a jikin itacen duk ana ɗauka alamun ƙauna ce.
Koyaya, yayin da kuka tsufa, kun fara fahimtar ra'ayin cewa soyayya ba ji bane amma zaɓi ne. Zaɓi ku zauna lokacin da abubuwa suka yi wuya, kuka zaɓi ɗaukar nauyi, kuma kuka zaɓi girmama alwashin ku.
Kimiyya ta gwada da bayyana soyayya ta hanyoyi da yawa, kuma amsar wannan tambayar tana ci gaba da canzawa dangane da mutumin da yake soyayya.
An ambaci wasu dalilan gama -gari da ya sa mutane ke son yin soyayya a ƙasa. Ci gaba da karantawa don ganowa.
1. Kuna son fadadawa fiye da kanku
Yawancin lokaci, yawancin mutane suna soyayya da mutumin da ba wai kawai yana samun abin sha'awa da dacewa ba har ma da wanda yake son su baya.
Wannan yana haifar da yanayi/yanayi inda zaku sami sabuwar dama don faɗaɗa kai.
Kasancewar wannan mutumin yana son ku baya yana ba ku babbar dama don tantance kanku, canza kanku, da faɗaɗa tunanin ku; lokacin da kuka gane wannan dama, kuna jin tashin hankali.
2. Kyakkyawan ido
Kula da ido mai kyau yana ba ku damar gani mai zurfi cikin ruhun abokin tarayya kuma nan da nan yana haifar da zurfin jan hankali ga juna.
Ko da ga mutane biyu waɗanda ba su taɓa haɗuwa da juna ba, kallon idanun za su iya cika su da zurfin haɗin gwiwa da jin daɗin sanin wannan mutumin na dogon lokaci.
Wasu mutane na iya tunanin wannan haɗin gwiwa a matsayin ƙauna.
3. Synchronicity na waje da na ciki
Kuna soyayya lokacin da tsarin jikin ku yayi daidai da abubuwan da ke haifar da dama a cikin duniyar waje. Abubuwan da ke haifar da dama suna nufin ƙanshin turare na yau da kullun, na gani, sauraro, da abubuwan taɓawa waɗanda ke faruwa cikin madaidaicin tsari, lokaci, da wuri.
Maganar kimiyya, a cikin alaƙar soyayya, akwai nau'ikan nau'ikan sunadarai da yawa da ake buƙata.
Don wani ya ƙaunaci, daban -daban abubuwan motsa jiki na waje daban -daban da hanyoyin neurochemical dole ne su dace da madaidaicin jerin don ku ƙaunaci.
4. Wari
Mutane da yawa suna soyayya da abokin tarayya ko abokinsu saboda yadda suke wari.
Bayanin da ke sama yana yin sauti mara kyau, amma ƙanshin jiki yana haifar da jin daɗi a cikin maza da mata. Yanzu, ku tuna cewa ba kawai muna tattaunawa kan ƙanshin da rigar ƙazantar abokin ku take da shi ba har ma da riguna marasa ƙamshi da sauran kayan sutura.
Waɗannan siginan ƙamshi suna shiga kwakwalwar ku ta hanyar ƙanshin ƙanshi, sai ku fara soyayya.
5. Hormones
Hormones suna taka muhimmiyar rawa wajen sanya ku soyayya.
Shin bakin ku ya bushe kuma zuciyar ku ta fara bugawa da zaran manyan sauran ku sun buga ƙarar ƙofar ku? Da kyau, wannan martani ne na damuwa, kuma yana faruwa lokacin da aka saki hormones kamar serotonin, dopamine, da adrenaline a cikin jinin ku.
Ƙaunar ma'aurata da aka buga suna da babban matakin dopamine a cikin jininsu.
Wannan neurotransmitter yana taimakawa wajen ƙarfafa yawan jin daɗi kuma yana da tasiri iri ɗaya akan kwakwalwa kamar amfani da hodar iblis.
6. Me yasa wasu mutane suke soyayya cikin sauki?
Lokaci -lokaci, idanuwa biyu suna haduwa a fadin dakin, sauran kuma tarihi ne.
Ga yawancin ku, yin soyayya na iya zama da wahala. Wani lokaci kuna son yin soyayya, amma ba ku iya bayarwa. Koyaya, don zama cikin soyayya, dole ne ku iya ba da ƙauna kuma ku sami soyayya a cikin kanku.
Lokacin da kuka ji ƙaunatacce, kuma lokacin da kuke ƙaunar kanku, kuna iya aiwatar da wannan ƙaunar. Lokacin neman masoyi, mutumin da baya jin ya cancanci soyayya, ba zai iya gabatar da kansa a matsayin abin so ba don haka ba zai iya soyayya ba. An fassara wannan rashin ƙarfin gwiwa a matsayin abin buƙata, kuma wannan yana tunkuɗa sauran abubuwan so-so kamar barkono barkono.
Mai buƙata ya bayyana, gwargwadon yadda za ku tunkuɗa mutane, kuma za ku sami ƙananan damar samun soyayya.
7. Fara aiki akan kanku don amincewa da bin soyayya
Don haka, idan kun kasance masu ban tsoro kuma kuna neman soyayya, to dole ne kuyi aiki da kanku da farko.
Yi ƙoƙari ku kasance masu ƙarfin hali, son kanku, buɗe kanku ga duniyar waje kuma kafin ku sani, ilmin sunadarai zai biyo baya, kuma za ku sami kanku kuna soyayya.
Kada ku bi tsohuwar magana "akasin haka tana jan hankali" kuma a maimakon haka ku sanya burin ku don samun wanda ke da ƙima iri ɗaya da ra'ayi iri ɗaya akan rayuwa kamar yadda kuke yi.
Ta wannan hanyar, zaku sami abokin rayuwa don raba rayuwar ku har abada.