Wadatacce
Lokacin farko na soyayya da wani shine, a lokaci guda, babban madaukaki da cikakkiyar yaudara. Tabbas kun san wannan jin daɗin lokacin da kuka gamsu da cewa duniyar ku ta ƙarshe ta sami babban ma'ana, kuma kuna so kawai don wannan motsin rai ya dawwama har abada (duk da cewa bayan 'yan irin waɗannan gogewar, zaku iya jin ƙaramin muryar tana gaya muku cewa yana da sauri. ). Wannan farin ciki ne ke jagorantar ku cikin sha'awar sanya wannan mutumin ya kasance tare da ku har zuwa ranar da kuka mutu. Kuma yanzu gefe na yaudara ga shi duka - duk da cewa kasancewa cikin soyayya yana daga cikin zurfin ji da mutum zai iya yi, ba zai iya dawwama ba - galibi baya wuce 'yan watanni, kamar yadda bincike ya nuna.
Jima'i da soyayya cikin aure
Gaggawar da kuke samu lokacin da kuke soyayya da wani yana tattara duk hankalin ku, kuma yana haifar da guguwa ta motsin rai, tunani, kuma, kar a manta, halayen sunadarai - duk wannan babu makawa yana sa ku ƙara sha’awar ku. Da yawa suna yanke shawara sannan kuma a can don gwadawa da tabbatar da cewa wannan ba zai tafi ba, kuma galibi suna yin hakan ta hanyar sanya jami'in haɗin gwiwa a gaban doka da Allah, idan masu imani ne. Amma duk da haka, abin takaici, kodayake soyayya, irin wannan matakin yakan zama ƙofar matsala. Soyayya a cikin aure ta sha bamban da wacce ta sa kuka yi aure tun farko, musamman idan kun yi sauri da sauri. Kada ku sami kuskuren ra'ayi, soyayya da aure suna tare tare, amma ba shine irin son jima'i da soyayya da kuka fara ji lokacin da kuka fara kallon mijin ku na yanzu ko ta wata hanya.
Baya ga sunadarai da suka ƙare (kuma masu ilimin halin ɗan adam na matakin juyin halitta suna da'awar cewa manufar wannan sihirin mai ɗorewa shine don tabbatar da haihuwa, don haka baya buƙatar wucewa fiye da 'yan watanni), da zarar lokacin sabon soyayya ya tafi, kun tashi don mamaki. Sun ce soyayya makauniya ce, kuma wannan na iya zama gaskiya a farkon watanni. Amma bayan farkon dangantakar ku wanda zaku san juna kuma kuna jin daɗin ci gaba da gano ƙaunataccen ku, gaskiyar ta fara. Kuma wannan ba lallai bane mummunan abu bane. Duniya ta cika da ma'aurata da ke zaune cikin aure mai ƙauna. Kawai yanayin yanayin motsin zuciyar ku da dangantakar ku gaba ɗaya dole ya canza.
Lokacin da kuka yi aure, ba da daɗewa ba amarcin amarya ya ƙare kuma kuna buƙatar fara ba wai kawai yin hasashe game da makomar ku ba, har ma ku tunkare ta da kyau. Wajibai, aiki, tsare -tsare, kuɗi, nauyi, nauyi, manufa, da kuma tuno yadda kuka kasance a baya, duk abin da ya cakuɗe cikin rayuwar auren ku ta yanzu. Kuma, a wancan matakin, ko za ku ci gaba da ƙaunar matarka (da nawa) ko kuma za ku sami kanku cikin aure mai daɗi (ko ba haka ba) galibi ya dogara da yadda kuka dace. Wannan ya shafi ba kawai ga waɗanda suka ɗaura ƙulli a tsakiyar soyayya mai ban sha'awa ba har ma ga waɗanda ke cikin dangantaka mai mahimmanci da sadaukarwa kafin jin kararrawa na bikin aure. Har yanzu aure, ko da a wannan zamani, yana kawo banbanci a yadda mutane ke fahimtar junansu da rayuwarsu. Yawancin ma'aurata da suka kasance cikin dangantaka tsawon shekaru kuma suna zaune tare kafin suyi aure har yanzu suna ba da rahoton cewa zama Mr. da Mrs.
Abin da ke jiran mu a kan hanyar da ke gaba
Matakan farko na soyayya suna ƙarewa, a cewar masana, har zuwa matsakaicin shekaru uku. Ƙaunar soyayya ba za ta daɗe fiye da hakan ba sai dai idan an kiyaye ta ta wucin gadi ta hanyar alaƙar ta nesa ko, mafi muni, ta rashin tabbas da rashin tsaro na abokin tarayya ɗaya ko duka biyu. Duk da haka, a wani lokaci, waɗannan motsin zuciyar suna buƙatar daidaitawa zuwa mafi zurfi, kodayake wataƙila ƙarancin ƙauna mai ban sha'awa a cikin aure. Wannan soyayyar ta dogara ne akan ƙimomin da aka raba, akan tsare-tsaren juna da kuma niyyar sadaukar da kai ga makomar gaba ɗaya, akan amana da kusanci na gaske, wanda a cikinmu ake ganin mu da gaske, maimakon yin wasannin lalata da haɓaka kai, kamar yadda muke sau da yawa yi a lokacin da zawarci. A cikin aure, soyayya yawanci sadaukarwa ce, kuma galibi tana hana raunin abokin rayuwar mu, fahimtar su koda lokacin da abin da suke yi zai iya cutar da mu. A cikin aure, soyayya cikakkiyar fahimta ce gabaɗaya wacce ke zama tushen ku da rayuwar tsararraki masu zuwa. Don haka, ba ta da daɗi fiye da son zuciya, amma hakan ya fi ƙima.