Wadatacce
- "Na dauke ka ka zama mijina wanda aka halatta bisa doka"
- "Don samun kuma riƙe"
- "Tun daga wannan ranar"
- "Har mutuwa ta raba mu"
Mun ji su sau da yawa, a fina -finai, a talabijin, kuma ba shakka a bukukuwan aure, don mu iya karanta su da zuciya: muhimman alkawuran aure.
"Ni, ____, na ɗauke ku, ____, ku zama aure na bisa doka (miji/mata), ku mallaka kuma ku riƙe, daga wannan ranar gaba, don mafi kyau, ga mafi muni, ga wadata, ga matalauci, cikin rashin lafiya da lafiya, har mutuwa ta raba mu. ”
Yawancin mu ba su gane cewa babu wani dalili na doka da ya haɗa da waɗannan kalmomin canonical a wurin bikin aure. Amma sun zama wani ɓangare na "aikin" aure kuma sune rubutun da ake tsammanin a wannan lokacin. Wani abu yana tabawa game da tsararraki da tsararrakin mutane suna faɗin alƙawarin aure na gargajiya.
Waɗannan alƙawura na ɗaurin aure sun ƙunshi saitin kalmomi iri ɗaya ga junansu, kalmomin da ke danganta su ga duk ma'auratan da, tun zamanin da, suka karanta waɗannan alkawuran guda ɗaya tare da bege iri ɗaya a idanunsu cewa za su kasance, tare da abokin tarayyarsu. har mutuwa ta raba su.
Waɗannan alkawuran aure na asali, waɗanda a zahiri aka sani da “yarda” a bikin Kirista, suna da sauƙi, ko ba haka ba?
Amma, waɗannan alƙawura masu sauƙi na aure sun ƙunshi duniyar ma'ana. Don haka, menene alkawuran aure? Kuma, menene ainihin ma’anar alkawuran aure?
Don fahimtar ma'anar alwashi a cikin aure da kyau, bari mu warware muhimman alkawuran aure kuma mu ga irin saƙo da suke isar da gaske.
"Na dauke ka ka zama mijina wanda aka halatta bisa doka"
Wannan yana daga cikin alƙawura na asali waɗanda dole ne ku taɓa ji sau da yawa a cikin bukukuwan aure daban -daban har ma a cikin fina -finai.
A cikin yaren yau, ana amfani da “ɗauki” a cikin ma'anar “zaɓi,” tunda kun yanke shawara da gangan don yiwa wannan mutumin kawai.
Tunanin zaɓin yana ƙarfafawa kuma mutum ya riƙe lokacin da kuka buge lokutan da ba za a iya mantawa da su ba waɗanda za su iya tasowa a cikin kowane aure.
Tunatar da kanku cewa kun zaɓi wannan abokin tarayya, a cikin duk mutanen da kuka yi kwangila, don ciyar da sauran rayuwar ku. Ba a zaba muku ba, kuma ba a tilasta muku ba.
Shekaru da yawa akan layi, lokacin da kuke kallon mijin ku yana yin wani abu da kuka gaya masa sau miliyan kada ya yi, ku tuna duk kyawawan dalilai da kuka zaɓi shi a matsayin abokin rayuwar ku. (Zai taimaka muku kwantar da hankali!)
"Don samun kuma riƙe"
Wannan kyakkyawan yanayi ne! An taƙaita ɗaukakar rayuwar aure a cikin waɗannan kalmomi guda huɗu, waɗanda ke cika alkawuran aure na asali.
Kuna samun “samun” wannan mutumin da kuke so a matsayin na ku, don yin bacci da farkawa kusa da sauran kwanakin ku tare. Kuna iya riƙe wannan mutumin kusa da ku duk lokacin da kuka ji buƙata saboda yanzu naku ne.
Hugs tabbas, duk lokacin da kuke buƙatar ɗaya! Yaya kyaun hakan?
"Tun daga wannan ranar"
Akwai sararin samaniya na bege a cikin wannan layin, kuma galibi ana amfani dashi a kusan duk alƙawura na aure na yau da kullun.
Rayuwarku mai alaƙa tana farawa yanzu, daga wannan lokacin da aka ɗaura aure, kuma yana ƙaruwa zuwa yanayin gaba.
Maganar ci gaba tare tare yana da alƙawari mai yawa ga abin da mutane biyu za su iya cim ma idan sun haɗu tare cikin ƙauna, suna fuskantar alkibla ɗaya.
“Don mafi kyau, ga mafi muni, ga wadata, ga matalauta, cikin rashin lafiya da lafiya ”
Wannan layin yana bayyana tushe mai ƙarfi wanda babban aure ke zama a kansa. Yana da a alƙawarin bayar da goyan baya na tunani, kuɗi, jiki, da tunani ga abokin tarayya, komai na gaba zai iya kawowa.
Ba tare da wannan tabbaci ba, aure ba zai iya yin fure cikin aminci da sarari ba, kuma ma'aurata suna buƙatar tabbaci don bayarwa da karɓar kusanci mai zurfi.
Zai yi wuya a girma a dangantaka idan ba ku da amana cewa abokin tarayya zai kasance tare da ku, ta cikin kauri da kauri.
Wannan yana ɗaya daga cikin mahimman maganganun da aka raba cikin mahallin alƙawura na aure, saboda alƙawarin kasancewa a wurin don renon ɗayan, yayin ba kawai kyawawan ranakun ba, lokacin yana da sauƙi amma kuma mara kyau, lokacin yana da tauri.
"Har mutuwa ta raba mu"
Ba layi mafi farin ciki ba, amma abu ne mai mahimmanci a faɗi. Ta hanyar haɗa wannan, kuna hatimin ƙungiyar don rayuwa.
Kuna nuna wa duk waɗanda suka zo don shaida ƙungiyar ku cewa kun shiga wannan aure da niyya, kuma niyyar ita ce gina rayuwa tare har tsawon kwanakin ku anan Duniya.
Bayyana wannan layin yana gaya wa duniya cewa komai abin da zai faru nan gaba, ko wanene ko me zai yi ƙoƙarin raba ku, kun yi alƙawarin ci gaba da kasancewa tare da wannan mutumin, wanda za ku so har sai numfashinku na ƙarshe.
Kalli wannan bidiyon:
Aiki ne mai kyau ta hanyar warware alƙawura na aure da duba sosai a ƙarƙashin abin da ke ƙarƙashin wannan harshe mai sauƙi na alƙawura na asali. Kusan abin kunya ne cewa ana iya rasa mahimmancin ma'ana saboda mun saba da jin layi.
Idan kun yanke shawarar cewa kuna son amfani da waɗannan alkawuran aure na asali, yana iya zama da kyau a yi la’akari da ƙara fassarar kanku, dangane da faɗaɗa sigar anan, na abin da kowane layi yake nufi a gare ku.
Ta wannan hanyar, ba wai kawai an kiyaye tsarin al'ada ba don bikin ku, amma kuma kuna ƙara ƙarin bayanin sirri wanda ku da abokin aikin ku za ku iya rabawa tare da waɗanda suka zo bikin ƙungiyar ku.
“Manufar rayuwar mu ita ce farin ciki, wanda bege ke raya shi. Ba mu da garanti game da makomar, amma muna wanzu cikin begen wani abu mafi kyau. Fata yana nufin ci gaba da tafiya, yana tunani, 'Zan iya yin wannan.' Yana kawo ƙarfi na ciki, yarda da kai, ikon yin abin da kuke yi da gaskiya, gaskiya, kuma a bayyane. ” Wannan tsokaci daga Dalai Lama ne.
Ba musamman game da aure bane amma ana iya fahimtar sa azaman nuni na waɗannan alkawuran aure na asali. Yanzu, lokacin da kuke tunani, menene alkawuran aure, a ƙarshe, waɗannan alkawuran aure na asali game da abin da Dalai Lama ya bayyana.
Ya bayyana su a matsayin farin ciki, bege, motsawa zuwa wani abu mafi kyau, tabbacin cewa ku da abokin aikin ku "za ku iya yin wannan," da kuma kwarin gwiwa cewa tare da gaskiya, gaskiya, da nuna gaskiya, ƙaunarka za ta yi ƙarfi daga yau.