Wadatacce
- 1. Ka tuna, kun sanya hannu kan sharuɗɗan & yanayi
- 2. “Na fahimta” da “kun yi daidai” ba shawarwari bane kawai
- 3. Juya teburin fada da fitar da “manyan bindigogi”
- 4. Wani lokaci yana da kyau ku yi kamar yaro
- 5. Kada ku ɗauki kanku da muhimmanci!
Babu wata madaidaiciyar dabara ga aure; kowane ma'aurata na musamman ne kuma daban. A matsayin wani ɓangare na wannan keɓancewar, matsaloli da ƙalubalen da ke tasowa za su iya bambanta. Maimakon a mai da hankali kan wahalhalun, yi la'akari da waɗannan nasihun nishaɗi.
1. Ka tuna, kun sanya hannu kan sharuɗɗan & yanayi
Wataƙila ba koyaushe kuke fahimtar matar ku ba, amma har yanzu kuna cewa "Na yarda." Shiga lasisin aure bai wuce kawai abin da doka ta bukata ba. Yarjejeniya ce, alkawari ko alkawari, kun yi tare da shaidu don kauna da kaunar juna har tsawon rayuwa. Duk da yake har abada bazai kasance cikin makomar kowa ba, aure aiki ne mai wahala kuma yana ɗaukar alƙawarin waɗannan “sharuɗɗan”. Babu shakka game da shi - a game da aure, sharuɗɗa da ƙa'idodi koyaushe nema.
2. “Na fahimta” da “kun yi daidai” ba shawarwari bane kawai
Kamar yadda al'ada da wauta kamar yadda zai iya sauti, fahimtar cewa matarka koyaushe tana da gaskiya shine babban tushen aure. Wannan ba lallai bane yana nufin cewa tana da gaskiya kuma koyaushe tana da gaskiya. Amma karin maganar cewa mace mai farin ciki tana nufin rayuwar farin ciki ba ta yi nisa da alamar ba. Wani lokaci muhawara ba ta cancanci samun ba. Wani lokaci yaƙin shine wanda bai kamata a ɗauka ba. A madadin haka, neman afuwa, ko da ba ku ji kun yi kuskure ba, za su yi nisa wajen nuna wa matar ku yadda take da mahimmanci a gare ku.
3. Juya teburin fada da fitar da “manyan bindigogi”
Fada da rashin jituwa wani bangare ne na kowace dangantaka, gami da aure. Akwai lokutan da kai da matarka ba za ku iya cimma matsaya ɗaya ba kuma dole ne yin sulhu. Yarda ba ta da sauƙi, saboda yana nufin cewa babu mutumin da ke samun duk abin da yake so. Maimakon barin yin sulhu ya haifar da rashin gamsuwa da takaici, yi amfani da shi don amfanin ku! A yanzu, lokacin zaman lafiya da kwanciyar hankali tsakanin ku, ku fito da dabarun yadda za ku amsa sabani. Yi shirin yadda abubuwa za su kasance idan dole ne ku yi sulhu, kuma ku haɗa da wani abu mai daɗi! Misali, idan kai da matarka kwanan nan kuka shiga takaddama, ku rage tashin hankali ta hanyar kafa yaƙin Nerf ko yaƙin balloon ruwa. Babu babba da ya tsufa da yin irin wannan nishaɗin tare da mutumin da suke so. Kuma tunda irin wannan nishaɗin ya ƙunshi gasa, zai iya ba da damar tashin hankali da ya ginu sakamakon jayayya da rashin jituwa don warwarewa ta halitta ta hanyar motsa jiki da yanayin gasa mai sauƙi.
4. Wani lokaci yana da kyau ku yi kamar yaro
Wani lokacin zama babba yana da wahala. Kasancewa babba mai aure kuma mai alhakin alaƙa ya fi wuya. Da yawa daga cikin mu suna son, a wasu lokuta, shiga cikin sauƙin da muka sani a matsayin yara. Wannan sauki yana iya zuwa ta hanyar gujewa nauyin da ke wuyan ku ko kuma yana iya zuwa ta hanyar yin wasa game da abubuwa maimakon ɗaukar su da mahimmanci. Lura cewa idan ya zo ga zama mata, za a sami lokutan da suka dace don yin tunani da aiki kamar yaro. Yana da kyau ayi nishaɗi tare da matarka! A zahiri, yana iya zama lafiya ƙwarai a gare ku da matarka ku ciyar da lokaci tare da juna wanda aka tsara don nishaɗi da kerawa maimakon ayyukan yau da kullun da mahimmanci. Dole ne a yi amfani da irin wannan halayyar cikin hikima, kuma koyaushe a lokacin da ya dace. Kasancewar yara, a gefe guda yakamata da wuya idan ya taɓa faruwa a cikin dangantakar ku. Yin aiki tun yana yaro da nishaɗi ya sha bamban da na ƙuruciya. Fahimci layi mai kyau tsakanin su biyun kuma ku kiyaye daidaiton don samun fa'idodin sanin yadda ake yin nishaɗi tare da abokin tarayya!
5. Kada ku ɗauki kanku da muhimmanci!
Tare da barin kanku don yin wani lokacin kamar yaro, yana da mahimmanci kada ku ɗauki juna da mahimmanci. Wannan izgili da wasa dole ne ya faru a lokacin da ya dace kuma da niyyar da ta dace. Amma wasa a cikin alakar ku na iya haifar da kusanci ta zahiri da ta zahiri, wani abu ku biyu na iya so a asirce a matakin zurfi.