Wadatacce
- Haɗin gwiwa mai yiwuwa
- Waɗannan maganganun suna misalta dabaru na sababbin abubuwan son soyayya na:
- Ƙaunar kai ita ce maganin ƙin yarda
- Raunin son kai shine ƙa'idar aiki
- SLDD Matsala/SLD Mutum
- Maganin codependency shine son son kai
Ban sani ba burin da nake da shi na sake suna "daidaituwa" zai kai ni New York City inda, a ranar 2 ga Yuni, 2015, na shiga cikin tattaunawar kwamiti tare da wasu membobi masu mutunci da yawa na jama'ar lafiyar kwakwalwa.
Harville Hendrix, dangantakar ƙasa da ƙasa kuma ƙwararriyar ilimin halin ƙwaƙwalwa (kuma mai ba da goyon baya ga littattafan yaren Ingilishi) gwarzo ne na kaina kuma ina godiya da gaske don damar koya daga gare shi yayin wannan taron.
Daga cikin membobin kwamitin shida, na kafa haɗin kai tsaye tare da Tracy B. Richards, likitan ilimin halayyar dan adam na Kanada, mai zane -zane, da jami'in bikin aure. Yayin da sashi na tattaunawar ya ƙunshi ƙa'idoji, narcissism, da kuma Ra'ayin Magnet Syndrome, Tracy ta mai da hankali kan ikon warkar da kai, yarda da kai, kuma, mafi mahimmanci, son kai.
Haɗin gwiwa mai yiwuwa
Mun haɗu nan take yayin da muke raba ɗumi, jin daɗin haɗaɗɗen ta'aziyya da saba. Hakanan ya zama kamar a bayyane yake ga 'ya'yanmu-Ciwon Magnet na ɗan adam da ita "Son Kai shine Amsa"-ya faɗi cikin ƙauna a farkon gani.
Da zarar na dawo bakin aiki, ba zan iya daina yin tunani game da tunani kan Tracy akan son kai ba.
Da shigewar lokaci, sauƙaƙƙinta, amma kyakkyawa, ra'ayoyinta sun ci gaba da zama a cikin raina. Ba abin mamaki ba ne lokacin da tunaninta ya fara haɓaka a cikin ƙoƙarin kaina na game da ƙalubalen asalin dangi da aikina na ilimin halin dan Adam/aikin jinya.
Ba tare da bata lokaci ba, ka'idodinta sun sami shiga cikin labaran koyarwa da bidiyo na, da kuma wasu tarurruka na.
Waɗannan maganganun suna misalta dabaru na sababbin abubuwan son soyayya na:
- Daidaitawa ba zai yiwu ba tare da yalwar Soyayya (SLA).
- Masu dogaro da kai suna da rashi mai mahimmanci a cikin son kai.
- Raunin haɗe-haɗen yara shine tushen dalilin Raunin Kaunar Kai (SLD).
- Raunin Ƙaunar Kai ya samo asali ne daga kaɗaici na yau da kullun, abin kunya, da raunin ƙuruciyar da ba a warware ta ba.
- Tsoron fuskantar kunkuntar ko murƙushe babban abin kunya da kaɗaici na ɗabi'a yana shawo kan masu dogaro da kai don kasancewa cikin alaƙa mai cutarwa.
- Kawar da Ƙaunar Ƙaunar Kai da bunƙasa Ƙaunar Kai
- Yalwa shine babban makasudin maganin daidaituwa.
Kasancewa da tabbaci na na yin ritaya "daidaituwa," Na fara buƙatar fito da wanda ya dace.
Ƙaunar kai ita ce maganin ƙin yarda
Ba zan daina bincike na ba har sai na gano lokacin da zai bayyana ainihin yanayin/gogewa, yayin da ba na jawo mutum ya ji mummunan halin kansa ba.
Sa'a ta ta canza a tsakiyar watan Agustan 2015, yayin rubuta wata kasida a kan daidaituwa. A ciki, na rubuta kalmar, "Son Kai shine Maganin Dogaro da Kai." Gane sauƙin sa da ƙarfin sa, na ƙirƙiro meme, wanda daga nan na sanya a shafukan yanar gizo da dama.
Ba zan iya yin annabcin kyakkyawar amsa mai kyau ga meme da ma'anarsa ba, saboda ya haifar da tattaunawa mai zurfi da tunani game da yadda kuma me yasa rashin son kai ke da alaƙa da daidaituwa.
Wannan shine lokacin da na san ina kan wani babban abu!
Kamar sauran abubuwan da suka danganci daidaituwa, zai yi tasiri a cikin tunanina kafin ya ba da mafi mahimmancin darasinsa-bugu na gaba.
Lokacin soyayya na eureka ya zo min kusan watanni biyu bayan haka.
Raunin son kai shine ƙa'idar aiki
Yayin haɓaka abubuwa don sabon taron karawa juna sani na Codependency Cure, na ƙirƙiri nunin faifai mai taken "Raunin Kauna Kai Tsaye ne!"
Da zarar an buga shi, ambaliyar farin ciki da tsammani sun ɗauke ni. Wannan shi ne lokacin da na ji kaina na cewa, Rashin Ƙaunar Kaunar Kai Ƙa'ida ce! Ba na wuce gona da iri ba lokacin da na ce na kusa fadowa daga kan kujera da tashin hankali.
Nan take na fahimci mahimmancin wannan magana mai sauƙi, nan da nan na fara haɗa shi a cikin labarai, shafukan yanar gizo, bidiyon YouTube, horo, kuma tare da abokan cinikina na ilimin halin kwakwalwa. Na yi matukar mamakin yawan masu dogaro da kai, masu murmurewa ko a'a, da alaƙa da su.
An gaya mini akai -akai yadda ya taimaka wa mutane su fahimci matsalar su, ba tare da sanya su jin naƙasa ko “mara kyau” ba.
Game da wancan lokacin, na yanke shawara mai hankali don maye gurbin “daidaituwa” tare da Rashin Raunin Kaunar Kai.
Duk da cewa yana da karin karin magana da yawa kuma yana sa ni daure harshe sau da yawa, na yi niyyar aiwatar da tsare-tsaren ritaya na “codependency”. Saurin ci gaba zuwa shekara guda daga baya: dubun dubatar mutane, idan ba ƙari ba, sun rungumi Rashin Raunin Ƙaunar Kai a matsayin sabon suna don yanayin su.
Amincewa ta kasance cewa Rashin Ƙaunar Ƙaunar Kai ba kawai sunan da ya dace da yanayin ba ne, amma kuma ya motsa mutane su so su warware ta.
SLDD Matsala/SLD Mutum
A cikin 'yan makonni, na yanke shawarar fara kamfen na duniya don yin ritaya "daidaituwa," tare da gina fa'ida da karbuwa don maye gurbinsa. Na aiwatar da shirina ta hanyar bidiyon YouTube, labarai, shafukan yanar gizo, hirar rediyo da talabijin, horar da ƙwararru da tarurrukan ilimi.
Idan akwai wata ƙungiya mai ƙaƙƙarfan ƙa'idar aiki, da na kewaye su da buƙatun don ba ni damar maye gurbin ta da mafi dacewa lokaci, Ciwon Raunin Ƙaunar Kauna (SLDD), tare da mutumin da Ƙaunar Kaunar Kai (SLD). Ina alfahari da cewa SLDD da SLD sannu a hankali suna kamawa.
Maganin codependency shine son son kai
Kamar yadda ban yarda da amfani da kalmomi marasa kyau da aka saba samu a cikin binciken lafiyar kwakwalwa ba, na yi imani da gaske "Rashi" a Ciwon Kaunar Kaunar Kai yana da mahimmanci, kamar yadda yake fayyace matsalar da ake buƙatar magani.
Ba kamar sauran rikice -rikice ba, da zarar an sami nasarar kula da SLDD, an warkar da shi -baya buƙatar magani na gaba ko damuwa game da sake dawowa ko sake dawowa.
Tare da ƙudurin kowace cuta, na yi imanin ganewar da aka ba mutum ya kamata a soke shi ko a maye gurbinsa da wani wanda ke nuna ingantacciyar lafiyar kwakwalwa.
Wannan tunanin ya yi wahayi zuwa ga aikina tare da babban mawuyacin ɓacin rai, wanda ba ya nuna alamun ko alamomi da zarar an yi magani da kyau. Haka ra'ayin ya shafi SLDD: me yasa za ku riƙe wannan ganewar? Wannan layin tunani ya yi mini wahayi don ƙirƙirar kalmar da ke wakiltar ƙudurin dindindin na SLDD - Maganin Dogara.
Mataki na gaba shine ƙirƙirar suna don maganin SLDD.A watan Fabrairun 2017, na fara komawa ga irin wannan magani kamar Mayar da Ƙaunar Kai (SLR), saboda ƙaramin yanayi ne na sabon kalmar kalmomin son kai na.