Wadatacce
- 1. Yin amfani da lokaci mai inganci tare
- 2. Yawaita magana da abokin zama
- 3. Yi nishaɗi tare
- 4. Yi kokari wajen kiyaye amana da gaskiya
- 5. Shirya burin ku nan gaba tare
- 6. Bayar da fifikon mijinki
Abokantaka a cikin aure ana noma shi kuma ana raya shi tsawon shekaru a rayuwar aure. Idan kuna jin motsin rai da rarrabuwar kawuna, har yanzu kuna iya gina ikon haɓaka ƙawancen ku zuwa matakan da ake so.
Hakkin aure yana taka rawa sosai wajen faɗaɗa tazara tsakanin ma'aurata, amma ƙarfin abota a cikin aure na iya taimakawa shawo kan sa.
Wannan labarin ya tattauna wasu dabaru masu amfani don kiyaye abota a cikin aure.
1. Yin amfani da lokaci mai inganci tare
Kasancewar kuna fitar da lokaci daga jadawalin aikin ku don ciyar da lokaci tare da abokin tarayya yana nufin kuna ƙima da su, kuma suna da mahimmanci don farin cikin ku. Yi ɗan lokaci kowace rana lokacin da zaku iya sake haɗawa da juna. Idan ya kasance a ƙarshen ranar aiki, gano yadda abokin aikin ku ya ciyar da ranar. Bada abokin tarayya don raba ƙalubalen ranar da nasarorin kamar kuna ba da kunnen sauraro.
Ba da bayanan ku kawai lokacin da aka kira yin hakan. Idan kun lura da shawarar da kuke ganin bai dace ba, bari matarka ta sani game da ita amma ku yi ta da kyau.
Yayin da ku ma kuka fara ranarku, kafin ku farka, ku raba shirye -shiryen ku na ranar kuma ku gama da addu'a ko wani aiki na tarayya, yana kawo bambanci.
2. Yawaita magana da abokin zama
Shiru a cikin aure yana dauke da bacin rai tunda kuna tunani daban da na abokin aikin ku. Amma sadarwa na iya warware wannan matsalar. Sadarwa akan komai - abokanka, dangi, abokan aiki, burin, yara, da sauran abubuwa.
Ta hanyar sadarwa ne za ku sami damar yin magana cikin murya ɗaya don amfanin gamsar da aure. Bugu da ƙari, kuna godiya kuma kuna haɗawa - kyakkyawan abu a cikin ƙudurin rikici.
3. Yi nishaɗi tare
Yi wa juna dariya yayin da kuke tuna wasu abubuwan tunawa masu daɗi don haɓaka haɗin gwiwa. Shiga cikin ayyukan da ku duka kuke morewa. Gasa da wasa da juna. Kasance mai ban dariya ba tare da mugunta ko laifi ba. Wannan babbar hanya ce don ƙarfafa zumunci a cikin auren ku.
Sanya kowane aikin da kuke yi tare abin tunawa ne. Idan tafiya ce, yi abin daɗi ta hanyar tafiya gefe ɗaya, riƙe hannaye, da raɗa kalmomi masu daɗi a cikin kunnen abokin tarayya. Idan wasan jirgi ne, yi rikodin wasu motsi na wauta kuma daga baya yin ba'a da shi- yana kawo canji.
Yi ƙoƙarin shiga sabbin ayyuka a matsayin ma'aurata; bari ya zama ƙwarewar ilmantarwa don kiyaye ku tare. Idan kuna da wata wahala, yi amfani da wannan azaman wani abu don sake gwada shi tare har sai kun yi nasara. Binciken da ma'aurata ke yi tare yana haɓaka abokantakarsu.
4. Yi kokari wajen kiyaye amana da gaskiya
Me yasa soyayya tsakanin ma’aurata ta ƙare bayan shekaru biyu? Tausasawa na iya haifar da haɓaka rashin yarda a cikin aure. Kamar a cikin abokantaka, gwada da haɓaka buɗe ido da gafara a cikin alakar ku. Wannan, bi da bi, na iya taimakawa gina aminci tsakanin ku da abokin aikin ku. Amincewa yana ba ku 'yanci don raba duk ƙalubalen ku da nasarorin ku tare da matar ku kyauta.
Amana ita ce tushe ga duk abin da muke yi. A cikin bidiyon da ke ƙasa, farfesa a Makarantar Kasuwancin Harvard Frances Frei yayi bayanin yadda ake gina shi, kula da shi, da sake gina shi.
5. Shirya burin ku nan gaba tare
Sauya shelar “I” da “mu,” wata alama ce ta rashin haɗa kai.
"Ina fatan za mu gina gidanmu a cikin wannan birni."
Amincewar shiga cikin tsare -tsaren abokin zama yana haifar da amana kuma yana ƙara haɓaka haɗin gwiwa tsakanin ma'aurata.
6. Bayar da fifikon mijinki
Kuna jin daɗi lokacin da matar ku ta zama al'ada ta tuntuɓe ku kafin yin kowane babban yanke shawara. Yana nufin ra'ayin ku yana ƙidaya a rayuwarsu. Bayan haka, yana ba ku ma'anar alhakin idan akwai gazawar shirin.
Gamsar da aure shine aikin abokai biyu waɗanda suke da ƙauna mara iyaka ga junansu kuma suna shirye su sadaukar da rayuwar auren su. Ta wurin kasancewa tare da juna, kasancewa cikin taɓawa koyaushe, jin daɗin alaƙar, yin gaskiya, sanya junan su cikin makomar mutum, da sanya su fifiko, za a iya ƙulla zumunci mai ƙarfi tare da mata. Yana iya share fagen samun gamsuwar aure na dogon lokaci.