Wadatacce
Lokacin da damar yin tunani game da auren ku ta gabatar da kanta - gudu tare da shi. Bayanai na aure suna tunatar da ku yadda yake ji don soyayya da yadda yake da mahimmanci don fuskantar guguwar da ke zuwa da aure, tana jiran bakan gizo a gefe guda.
Lokacin da kuke karanta waɗannan ƙa'idodin soyayya, yi tunani game da abin da ake nufi da kasancewa cikin soyayya, abin da sadaukarwa ke nufi gare ku da matar ku, da kuma game da cikas, ƙalubale, da nasarorin da kuka yi tare a matsayin ma'aurata.
Bayanai na aure na soyayya ƙananan shawarwari ne masu ban mamaki waɗanda ke ba ku damar yin bimbini a kan auren ku, don mafi alheri ko mafi muni. Kuma tunda zance yawanci jumla ce kawai, suna da sauƙin tunawa da tunani.
Idan kuna neman "Ina son ku ƙima sosai", a nan akwai wasu mafi kyawun zance game da soyayya a cikin aure wanda zai sa ku yi tunani.
Nasihohi game da soyayya
Ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana na iya sanya ku cikin tunanin inda dangantakarku take da gaske. Kalaman soyayya masu zurfi na iya barin tasiri mai ɗorewa akan auren ku. Ga ɗaya daga cikin mafi kyawun maganganun soyayya waɗanda zaku gamu da su. 
Yakamata a karanta ƙa'idodin bege game da ƙauna da rayuwa don cusa bangaskiya cikin ƙauna da ke ɓacewa a kwanakin nan. Anan akwai faɗin “cikin soyayya” wanda dole ne ku raba ba kawai tare da abokin tarayya ba amma tare da dangin ku da abokai.
Neman “menene soyayya”? Ƙauna ba malam buɗe ido kawai a cikin ciki ba, musayar soyayya da kuma ayyukan ibada na soyayya. Yana da yawa fiye da haka. Ƙauna ta ƙunshi bangaskiya, jimiri, da haƙuri. Ga ɗaya daga cikin ƙa'idodin ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana da za ku samu.
Kalmomin soyayya masu dumama zuciya suna iya yin sihirin tunatar da ku da abokin aikinku yadda soyayyar da gaske take. Zai iya zama babban "ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana" idan kuna neman ɗaya.
Maganganun soyayya masu daɗi da nishaɗi na iya haifar da fashewar soyayya da so a cikin alakar ku. Koyaya, samun maganganun soyayya irin wannan na iya ɗaukar ɗan ƙoƙari. Ga ɗaya daga cikin gajerun maganganun soyayya waɗanda zaku iya jin daɗin karantawa.
Soyayyar gaskiya ta samo asali ne daga abota mai ƙarfi.Kalaman soyayya na gaskiya kamar na Ann Landers zai sa ku fahimci yadda soyayya da abokantaka suke.
Lokacin da kuke girmama mutum don ainihin wanene zaku iya soyayya da shi da gaske. Bayanai na ƙauna da girmamawa na iya taimaka muku fahimtar yadda yake da mahimmanci ku bar abokin tarayya ya zama kansu. Ga zancen soyayya mai daɗi wanda zai kawo murmushi a fuskar ku.
Lokacin da kuka kasance tare da wani na dogon lokaci har kuna jin cewa ku na juna ne, kun zama yankuna. Nasihun soyayya na har abada kamar wanda ke ƙasa zai sa ku ji saurin sha'awar da haɗin gwiwa mai ƙarfi da kuke rabawa tare da abokin tarayya.
Kafin ku nemi fa'idodin "Ina son ku" yana da mahimmanci don tabbatar da cewa kuna shirye don soyayya. Bayanai masu ban sha'awa game da soyayya kamar wanda ke ƙasa za su taimaka muku fahimtar bambancin da ke tsakanin yin soyayya don dalilan da suka dace da kuma soyayya don dalilan da ba daidai ba.
Shahararrun kalaman soyayya na iya yin latsawa, duk da haka, har yanzu ba su rasa mahimmancin su ba. Kalaman Nicholas Sparks sune abubuwan da aka fi so a kowane lokaci don masoyan litattafan soyayya. Ga ɗaya daga cikin shahararrun maganganun soyayya game da shi.
Kafin ku nemi “faɗuwar soyayya” yakamata ku karanta “ƙaunatattun maganganun soyayya”. Sai kawai lokacin da kuke ƙaunar kanku za ku iya samun so na gaskiya. Soyayya ba kawai game da soyayya da wardi bane, zaku kuma haɗu da ƙalubale da raunin zuciya a hanya. Kalmomin "Ƙauna tana cutarwa" na iya warkar da ku daga ɓacin zuciya kuma yana ƙarfafa ku don ci gaba. Karanta wasu maganganun aminci da ƙauna idan kuna jin ɗaukar fansa da ramawa. Ƙiyayya ba ta da amfani.
Anan akwai ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana wanda ke nuna ikon ƙaƙƙarfan ƙauna. Karanta wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana wanda zai iya ƙarfafa ku da matar ku ku matso kusa, ba tare da wata matsala ba ta haɗa madaidaicin mutane biyu cikin ɗaya.
Kasancewa cikin ƙauna shine mafi kyawun yanayi, inda ba za ku iya jira don farkawa kowace rana da sanin cewa kuna da abokin tarayya mai ban mamaki, wanda koyaushe zai kasance tare da ku. Karanta kuma ka raba shi tare da abokin aikinka da safe kuma ka kalli murmushin kyalkyali wanda ya bazu akan fuskarsu.
Ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana wanda ya taƙaita shi duka cikin kalmomi biyun. Duniya tana da daɗi da annashuwa da annashuwa duk a lokaci guda lokacin da kuke tare da ɗayan.
Nuna wa mijinki yadda soyayyarku take da ƙarfi. Wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan zance yana murnar motsin ƙauna da rungumar abokin aikinku tare da duk warts, ɓarna da rauni.
'Yan abubuwa kamar soyayya ba sa iyawa. Ƙaunar soyayya ita ce jigon kai na sadaukarwa mara gushewa da ƙaƙƙarfan so, shauki, da motsin rai. Karanta akan wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana tare da abokin aikin ku kuma ku kalli su suna walƙiya tare da motsin zuciyar da ba ta da iyaka.
Wannan faɗin soyayya yana magana game da sanya farin ciki da jin daɗin abokin aikin ku sama da na ku. Soyayyar da ke da son kai ba ta daɗewa, soyayya sadaukarwa ce a cikin yanayi kuma mai son gaskiya ba zai taɓa lalata kyakkyawar motsin rai ba har ma da raunin rashin tausayi.
Ƙarfin magana ba za a iya ja layi a isa ba a cikin dangantaka. Shiru a cikin dangantaka na iya jefa ƙura tsakanin soyayyabirds. Kada ku taƙaita kanku daga raba abubuwan da ke cikin zuciyar ku ga abin da kuke so. Wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana ya kamata ya zuga ku don gaya wa ƙaunataccen ku yadda ake ƙaunarsu da ƙaunarsu.
Ta yaya za ka gaya wa matarka cewa su ne duk abin da kuke mafarki koyaushe? Rayar da motsin soyayya a cikin rayuwar soyayya tare da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan soyayya.
Soyayyar gaskiya ta samo asali ne daga wurin tabbatar da kai ba rashin tsaro ba. Fahimci ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunarka ga abokin tarayya kuma ka gaya musu yadda kake amintacciya a cikin sararin samaniyar ku tare da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan soyayyar da ke bayyana jin daɗin soyayya mai nutsuwa da haɗa kai, ba tare da tashin hankali ba.
Za a iya ƙidaya soyayya? da kyau, a fili yana iya zama. Sanya abokin haɗin gwiwa ya faɗi don ƙimar ku tare da ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙazanta!
Don haka, kowa ya sha gaya muku cewa ita mai kula ce! Wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana yana gaya muku ku dage da riƙe wannan mutumin mai ban mamaki a rayuwar ku. Ka tuna da wannan faɗin soyayya lokacin da alakar ku ta tsinke ruwa saboda ba kwa son guguwar girgiza ta girgiza tushen dangantakar ku da abokin tarayya da kuke ƙauna da gaske, kuma wa ke son ku har zuwa wata da baya!
Haɗu da ƙaunataccen ku tare da shelar ƙauna, sha’awa, da sadaukarwa tare da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana wanda zai sa matar ku ta zama kamar mafi sa'a mafi tafiya a doron ƙasa!
Soyayya kadai ba zata iya ci gaba da dangantaka mai daɗi ba. Abota tare da abokin tarayya shine abin da zai taimaka muku tare da fuskantar hadari tare, ku more junan ku kuma ku kasance masu amintar juna duk abin da zai iya. Karanta wannan zance wanda zai zama tunatarwa mai taushi ga ku duka don zama abokai har abada.
Lokacin da kwakwalwan kwamfuta suka faɗi ƙasa kuma abokin aikinku ya yi nisa, ta yaya za ku gaya musu game da tsagewar zafin rabuwa da abokin zama? Wannan fa'idar tana ɗaukar zafin zuciyar da ke ciwo.
Don ƙauna da samun abokin tarayya ya rama irin wannan jin daɗin tare da irin wannan ƙarfin shine abin farin ciki mara iyaka. Bada yanayin farin cikin ku ga abokin tarayya tare da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana wanda shine ainihin abin da kowane mai farin ciki a cikin soyayya ke ji.
Menene ainihin taska mai tamani? Babban aboki ko abokin soyayya? Me zai faru idan kun buga jackpot mai daraja tare da abokin tarayya wanda ya ninka kamar abokina na 3 na am kuma mai ƙauna? Kai zuwa gare su kuma bayyana godiyar ku tare da taimakon wannan zance wanda ya ƙunshi farin ciki na ƙauna da abota da aka birkice zuwa ɗaya. 
Soyayya ba gado bane. Lokacin da kuke ƙaunar wani da gaske ba za ku juya musu baya ba lokacin da gefen su mara daɗi ya bayyana. Kuna nuna ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunataccena ta hanyar ɗaukar mafi munin gefen su, kamar yadda kuka yarda da mafi kyawun ɓangaren su. Wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan soyayya.
Son kai shine mafi kyawun nau'in soyayya kuma idan da gaske kuna son kanku, ba zaku taɓa buɗe hanya don abokin tarayya a rayuwar ku ba, wanda baya kula da ku cikin ƙauna, girmamawa, da tawali'u. Wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana zai nisanta ku daga karɓar kowane abu daga ƙasa da cancantar magani a cikin dangantaka.
Ba da ƙauna saboda an zalunce ku a cikin dangantaka? Kada ku daina! Fata yana shawagi kuma wannan zance shine ainihin abin da yakamata ku karanta kuma ku sani cewa zaku samar da haɗi mai ma'ana kuma abokin tarayya zai ƙaunace ku da aminci ga kuskure kamar yadda kuke.
Yana sona, baya sona? Tsinkaya tsakanin yanayin tabbacin cewa murkushe ku yana son ku baya da kuma halin damuwa inda kuke da shakku? Wace hanya ce mafi kyau don haskaka irin wannan yanayin 'al'amuran' fiye da karantawa da dariya tare da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan soyayyar soyayya.
Lokacin da kuke jinya da karyayyar zuciya kuma kuka ci karo da wani mai ciwon zuciya kuma ku sami haɗin haɗin gwiwa, kuna iya kan hanya don gano sabon matakin farin ciki da ƙauna tare. Wannan faɗar ta ƙunshi ikon warkar da ƙauna wanda zai iya tayar da kai da abokin tarayya kamar yadda babu abin da zai iya.
Ka karkatar da abokin tarayya ta hanyar furta alƙawarinka na ƙaunace su ko da a cikin gwaji da wahala. Sanya madaukakiyar ƙarfin soyayyar gaskiya a cikin alakar ku da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan soyayya.
Don haka, abokin aikinku na iya yin kamar ƙaramin yaro wani lokacin, amma kuna ganin abin kyawu ne duk da ƙoƙarin ƙoƙarin nuna ɓacin rai. Ku ci gaba da gaya musu cewa duk da cewa suna da hannu kaɗan, ba za ku iya daina guguwa a kansu ba. Wannan zancen soyayya mai ban dariya ya faɗi duka.
Rungumewa shine mafi kyawun jin daɗi a duniya, na biyun babu wanda ke cewa ana ƙaunarka kuma ana ƙaunarsa. Faɗa wa abokin tarayya yadda kuke narkewa a cikin hannayensu kuma kuna jin kamar kun isa mafaka lokacin da suka ba ku kyakkyawar ɗumi.
Gida shine inda zuciya take. Ku kawo ɗan ƙaramin ƙarfi tare da wannan kyakkyawan zance wanda ke nuna ƙauna, ƙauna da alaƙar dangi a cikin wasu kalmomi masu daɗi da aka haɗa tare. 
Soyayya ba ta da iyaka. Babu dalili. Nuna wasu 'yan luwadi da yin bikin hauka cikin ƙauna tare da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana wanda zai sa ku so ku sake rungumar juna.
Idan kasancewar abokin tarayya shine iska a ƙarƙashin fikafikanka, gaya musu irin farin cikin da kuke ji lokacin da suka yi maku da dukkan soyayyar su da yadda hakan ke sa ku tashi sama. Ga ɗaya daga cikin gajerun maganganun soyayya waɗanda zaku iya jin daɗin karantawa.
Kamar yadda rayuwa ke jefa muku ƙalubale, zaku iya samun kwanciyar hankali a cikin ƙauna na abokin tarayya kuma ku fuskanci hadari tare. Anan akwai ɗaya daga cikin ƙa'idodin soyayya masu ratsa zuciya da za ku samu game da nemo kyakkyawa a rayuwa, koda lokacin bai yi daidai ba.
Soyayya ba ta da ƙima kuma wannan ƙaƙƙarfan soyayyar daidai ce abin da kuke buƙatar rabawa tare da ƙaunataccen abin so. Bayanai na soyayya kamar wanda ke ƙasa zai sa ku ji tsananin ƙaƙƙarfan soyayyar da kuke da ita a cikin zuciyar ku ga abokin rayuwar ku.
Soyayya tana birge kowa. Ƙauna ta rinjayi duka. Yi murnar motsin ƙauna na nasara wanda ke kayar da duk rashin daidaituwa ta hanyarsa, tare da wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana da ke magana game da cin nasara duk da ƙalubalen da ke zuwa ta hanyar ƙauna ta gaskiya.
Yaya soyayya da Kirsimeti suke? Wannan zancen soyayya yana jawo kyawawan kamanceceniya tsakanin soyayya da Kirsimeti waɗanda duka biyun suna yin tausayawa na bayarwa, rabawa da kawo farin ciki cikin rayuwa.
Ba ku buƙatar haɗa mafi kyawun kalmomi tare ko raira waƙa ga ƙawancen abokin tarayya don furta motsin zuciyar ku. Wannan zancen soyayya yana ɗaga abin ƙyama ga sauƙin soyayya. Wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana zai ƙarfafa ku ku faɗi abubuwa ga matar ku kamar yadda suke, ba tare da fuskantar ƙalubalen yin sauti cikakke ba.
Soyayya tana dadin rayuwa. yaya? Karanta akan wannan ƙaƙƙarfan soyayya kuma zaku san yadda ake ƙauna da ƙaunatacciya tana yaɗa yalwar zaki a cikin rayuwar ku.
Kudi ba zai iya saya soyayya ba. Tausayi na kusa kamar soyayya ana iya ji da gogewa kawai. Lokacin da kuka karanta wannan faɗin soyayya, kuyi tunanin abin da ake nufi da kasancewa cikin soyayya.
Wannan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan magana yana ɗaukar motsin zuciyar ƙaunataccen ƙaunatacce, kuma za ku iya danganta shi kuma idan kuna da wannan na musamman wanda ya ɗora kanku, duk lokacin da suka zo wurin ku.
Lokacin da kuke cikin dangantaka mai ƙauna, kuna gina ɗimbin kyawawan abubuwan tunawa. Anan shine mafi kyawun zance na soyayya wanda zaku haɗu akan abubuwan tunawa da kuke tattarawa a cikin tafiya ta soyayya.
Magana ta soyayya wacce ke rubuta motsin zukata don zuriya. Nasiha mai dacewa don rabawa tare da matarka lokacin da kuke son sanya su jin zurfin ƙaunar ku.
Shin ba zai zama abin annashuwa ba ka gaya wa matarka cewa su kamiltattu ne kamar yadda suke, da kuma yadda kuke son su don su wanene? Kyawawan zance wanda zai sa matarka ta ji matuƙar mahimmanci.
Lokacin da kuka san kun sami ɗayan, kuna so ku ciyar da sauran rayuwar ku tare, ku shelanta ƙaunarka ta hanyar gaya musu ita ce mafi kyawun yanke shawara na rayuwar ku don ku mika kanku gare su. Ga ɗaya daga cikin ƙa'idodin soyayya mai ratsa zuciya da zaku samu.
Lokacin soyayya ta gaskiya, ƙarfi da ƙarfin hali kawai ke bi. Faɗa wa matarka yadda farin cikinku yake ƙaunace su kuma a ƙaunace ku da irin wannan zafin zafin ta hanyar sadaukar da wannan faɗin soyayya.
Idan kun sami kanku kuna rikita soyayya tare da soyayya, ga faɗin fa'ida wanda zai share bambanci tsakanin lamuran da ke ɓarkewa tsakanin soyayya da soyayya.
Ƙauna ta fi ƙarfin iko, koyaushe. Wannan zancen soyayya yana murna da ikon soyayya da kwanciyar hankali da yake kawowa.
Lokacin da kuka zaɓi ƙauna, yana buƙatar ku yi kiran hukunci daidai. Sanya fashewar ƙarfi a cikin dangantakar ku ta hanyar karanta wannan ƙaƙƙarfan zance tare game da sadaukarwa da alkawuran da kuke son cikawa.
Ga zancen auren soyayya mai daɗi wanda zai kawo murmushi a fuskar abokin aikin ku.
Ta yaya kuke sa abokin aikin ku ya shiga cikin zuciyar ku wanda ke cike da soyayya da son su? To, wannan zancen soyayya yakamata yayi dabara! Anan akwai faɗin “cikin ƙauna” wanda dole ne ku raba tare da abokin aikin ku kuma ku kalli su suna walƙiya cikin farin ciki!
