Wadatacce
- Yin soyayya
- 1. Gaskiya
- 2. Gamsuwa ta motsin rai
- 3. Haɗin zurfi
- Yin Jima'i
- 1. Son zuciya
- 2. Gamsuwa ta jiki
- 3. Babu haɗin zurfi
Jima'i jima'i ne kawai. Amma idan kun ƙara ƙaunar matar ku zuwa daidaituwa to ana iya jujjuya jima'i zuwa "yin soyayya". Yin jima'i da yin soyayya ba iri ɗaya ba ne. Na sani, na sani, wannan yana da kama. Akwai gaskiya a cikin wannan bayanin ko. Akwai lokutan da ban kasance cikin yanayin sauka ba kuma jima'i baya nufin iri ɗaya a gare ni kamar lokutan da nake cikakke a wannan lokacin. Bari mu rushe shi. Ga wasu bambance -bambance tsakanin yin soyayya da jima'i. Wannan labarin zai taimaka muku fahimtar menene tsarin yin soyayya kuma yaya ya bambanta da jima'i.
Yin soyayya
1. Gaskiya
Nuna gaskiya tare da matarka yakamata a aiwatar dashi a kowane bangare na alakar ku. Kasancewa mai gaskiya da gaskiya game da komai yana ba da damar ku da matarka ku san juna ta hanya mai zurfi. Wanda ke ba ku damar zama gaba ɗaya cikin kwanciyar hankali.
Samun nuna gaskiya yakamata ya canza zuwa rayuwar ku ta jima'i. Akwai abin da ba a misaltuwa lokacin da duk mutanen da ke cikin aure za su iya rabawa juna wani abu a bayyane, gami da abin da suke jin daɗi da abin da ba sa morewa a kan gado. Ba a ambaci mafi kyawun jima'i ba.
2. Gamsuwa ta motsin rai
Ni da mijina koyaushe muna iya ganin bambanci lokacin da muka haɗu sosai yayin yin soyayya. Akwai lokutan da yake jin kamar muna rarrabuwar duniya amma muna zaune kusa da juna ko, wani lokacin, a zahiri muna yin "jima'i kawai". A waɗancan lokutan, sau da yawa fiye da haka, na gane cewa ba mu shiga cikin ƙaunar soyayya ba cikin ɗan lokaci kuma muna jin buƙatar yin wannan haɗin gwiwa. Bayan mun taru muka sadu da juna a cikin wannan sarari, mu duka muna jin kamar mun sake zama a shafi ɗaya. Yin soyayya na gaske yana da mahimmanci don haɗin haɗin gwiwa wanda ba ya nan a cikin jima'i.
3. Haɗin zurfi
An kawo min tunanina cewa mijina yana jin mafi ƙauna lokacin da nake son shi. Na kuma fahimci na fi jin daɗin haɗuwa da shi lokacin da muke da kusanci da jiki a kowane mako. Waɗannan tunanin “fitila mai haske” guda biyu sun taimaka ni da maigidana da niyyar sanya kusancin jiki da fifiko. Amma ba kawai sauri ba. Ina magana ne game da sahihiyar soyayya ta son kai. Yin soyayya a cikin aure yana da mahimmanci, yin jima'i kawai bai wadatar ba.
Yin Jima'i
1. Son zuciya
Da alama lokacin da ni da maigidana kawai muke yin “jima’i”, yawanci saboda bana cikin yanayi kuma yana. KO akasin haka. Lokacin da hakan ta faru, babu wani haƙiƙanin haɗin kai da ke faruwa, kawai son sauka.
Abin da ya zo shine ainihin son kai. Babu ɗayanmu da ya damu sosai a wannan lokacin game da mutumin da baya son yin jima'i. Labari ne game da abin da yake so ko duka game da abin da nake so dangane da wanda ke cikin yanayi. Wannan nau'in jima'i, yayin da yake jin daɗin jiki nan take, yana barin barin ɗayan mu ko duka muna jin amfani da tad. A cikin yin jima'i vs yin soyayya, wannan shine abin da ya ɓace a cikin jima'i, kula da abin da abokin tarayya yake so.
2. Gamsuwa ta jiki
Mu duka mutane ne. Don haka a zahiri, akwai lokuta (wani lokacin ma fiye da sauran) da muke jin buƙatar gamsuwa. Duk da yake wannan sha’awa na iya zama mai ban mamaki, tana kuma iya haifar da son kai a cikin auren ku idan ya kasance koyaushe game da bukatun mata ɗaya.
Wanda ke dawo da mu gabaɗaya ga ra'ayin son kai.
Ƙarshen ƙasa, lokacin da ma'aurata ba “yin soyayya” galibi suna yin jima'i ne kawai wanda ke nufin mutum baya jin sha’awa a wasu lokuta. A yin soyayya vs yin jima'i, jima'i na iya rasa sha’awa amma koyaushe akwai farin ciki da annashuwa a cikin zaman soyayya tsakanin mata da miji.
3. Babu haɗin zurfi
Gaskiyar bakin ciki game da rashin yin soyayya da matarka shine cewa akwai karancin damar da za a iya haɗawa da gaske.Tabbas, zaku iya zama mafi kyawun abokai, amma ba tare da zurfin haɗin gwiwa wanda ke haɗa namiji da mace ba, an ɗaukaka abokan zama.
Kasancewa da sauri ko kuma “yi sauri mu gama da wannan” nau'in saduwa zai hana haɗin ku da auren ku. A yin soyayya vs jima'i, idan kuna tunanin yin soyayya ba ta da yawa lokacin da ake yin jima'i da abokantaka, kun yi kuskure sosai.
Bambanci tsakanin jima'i da yin soyayya ba wani abu bane da za a gyara sosai, duk da haka, yin soyayya mai zurfi ba mai sasantawa bane don samun ingantacciyar aure mai gamsarwa. An halicci jima'i don jin daɗi, jin daɗi kuma don haɗa mata da miji. Idan kai ko matarka suna shan wahalar yin soyayya maimakon yin jima'i kawai, yi ƙoƙarin ƙirƙirar yanayi wanda buƙatun tunani da na zahiri ke haɓaka. Yana ɗaukar lokaci da yin aiki amma yana da ƙima a ƙarshe. Yi soyayya ba jima'i kawai don aure mai ƙarfi da gamsarwa.